Am I too cautious when it comes to choking?

My toddler (almost 2) is going to be transitioning into the toddler classroom at daycare soon. She had her first visit and I noticed in the pictures posted that her blueberries were served whole not cut up. At home we're very big on cutting any foods that could be a choking hazard, such as blueberries and grapes. I sent an email to her new educators and kindly asked that blueberries be cut in the future. Am I too cautious? Or was emailing them the right thing to do?

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Grandparents…

My boyfriend’s parents want to have my baby today but I’m just not ready for her to be away from us for that long. I’ve let them take her for a couple of hours after them pressuring me and I was so upset the whole time because I didn’t want to be away from her. I’ve offered for them to come over whenever they like to see the baby and I’ve made the effort to take her round to their house.

Since I had her, I’ve felt quite pressured by them to let them have her for sleepovers and take her for whole days, and now his mum has said she feels like i don’t trust them and that she’ll end up resenting me for not letting them have her.

Would you say I’m being unreasonable, or is it normal to struggle with letting grandparents have your baby on their own? I’m really upset about the whole situation xx

Is anyone else just so overwhelmed by the amount of STUFF and THINGS😭 clothes, toys, random items.. my husband isn’t a hoarder or anything, but he’ll sometimes bring home stuff and I’m like??? We literally don’t need this AT ALL

And I’m already drowning in adhd overwhelm and anxiety, obviously the kids have clothes and we have 3 kids so it’s added up, and they’re constantly growing out of them and I just look at it all and all I can think about is landfills and overconsumption and crap, then my MIL.. don’t even get me started 😐 she’s very materialistic and always wants to gift stuff, not even quality stuff, just cheap plastic crap that I end up having to donate and feel guilty about that too. My AC stopped working yesterday and I’m spiraling. Today I just want to nuke my house and start over idk. Nobody else cares about stuff in the house but me

Knickers

Hi everyone,

I'm currently potty training my 2-year-old. When we go out, I put knickers on her with a pull-up over the top, just in case she has an accident. The problem is that all the knickers I've found are far too big.

Although she's 2, she's tiny for her age. She's mostly in 12–18 month clothes, with some 9–12 month tops and shorts still fitting.

Does anyone know where I can buy knickers in 9–12 months or 12–18 months? I'm really struggling to find any. She's been doing so well with potty training, and I don't want ill-fitting knickers to slow down all the progress she's been making.

Thank you! 😊

Feeling Unseen

I guess I’m just looking for some solidarity and to feel seen.

I’m staying with my boyfriends family for the week and it started off fine although my 14 week old isn’t sleeping great here and I’m up with her 3-5 times a night. EBF so I have to do all night feeds as. she screams if we try to give her a bottle at night.

Yesterday his family planned a day out for us including a walk and feeding ducks by a lake. I asked if I could take the buggy and they said yes it’s all tarmac so I thought oh sounds great.

Once we were walking I realised that maybe it wasn’t so short but his dad kept saying oh it’s not too bad. 3 hours later we arrived where we were walking to and then we spent another 1 hour on top of that wandering around the town/lake. I’m 14 weeks post partum and quite fit but I was exhausted. And my little one was crying because she was hungry and I’d had to breast feed walking. My boyfriend was saying you are so stressed the whole walk which wasn’t helping. It’s obvious when I’m stressed because I’m usually chilled even with a baby. I finally broke down when the only option was to feed my baby in a fish and chip shop window and when a kind lady saw me and said you are doing so well. The only act of understanding or kindness I’d received all day so the floodgates opened.

On the drive back to his familys house my baby was crying so much, she’s usually so chilled so I just felt like I’d failed her.

This morning I woke up and I just couldn’t stop crying. I feel super overwhelmed and like I’m in a house of people that don’t consider or understand what it’s like to have days out with a young baby. My boyfriend said this morning I should go to the doctors - that made me feel even worse. I’ve not cried one day since 2 weeks post partum. 1 day I’m crying because I’m overwhelmed and I’m not coping being away from home when so much is expected of me but he’s now making out I’m mentally ill. I feel so sad he doesn’t understand me and that I have to perform the role of super mum, step mum and sociable partner at all times or I need to see a doctor.

Am I over exaggerating??

So my man commented on one of his female friends post of her son showing off his ball skills .. he said “does he have skills or is he just talented like his mom” …… and idk why yall but im taking that a way. Especially because I told him he didn’t compliment me all day and you figure if he’s going to compliment a women especially about their mothering skills he would compliment me……..idk yall I feel a way , am I overreacting?

Activities without lots of energy?!

Please help. I feel like all I want to do is sit on sofa, 39 weeks pregnant and have a 4 yr old boy to entertain! What can we do?! He hates anything artistic 🤦‍♀️