Spanking is abuse?

To the people that classify spanking your children as abuse - if your friend spanks their child as a form of discipline, are you calling child’s services to report them?

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They wouldn't be my friend and yes

No. There's a fine line in my opinion between spanking and abuse. You can give a pat on the ass without it being abuse, but it's when you go overboard that it becomes abuse. Some kids just need to get disciplined the old school way with a spank. Some kids just push the boundaries and don't take parents seriously if their just talking with no follow through. I'm not saying your first punishment defense should be spanking but used as the last resort to show your serious about sh*t. I could tell my kid 1000 times not to do something but he doesn't listen until I show I'm serious and follow through. I count down from 5 and if my oldest doesn't do what I asked when I get to 0 he knows his punishment will be alot worse then what it was going to be at 5.

These questions make my brain hurt. Because I would say hitting your child or anyone is abuse. Spanking is abuse.

And yet it is legal in the US. So if there are no other signs and just this, I don’t think I’d report it. CPS would not do anything. I very much disagree with it and think it’s counterproductive and lazy and bad. But ultimately it’s not against the law

I don’t like spanking but would I report someone else for doing it to their own child? No absolutely not. Also CPS doesn’t view open handed spanking as abuse either.

It’s not against the law here, so reporting to CPS wouldn’t do anything.

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Grandparents…

My boyfriend’s parents want to have my baby today but I’m just not ready for her to be away from us for that long. I’ve let them take her for a couple of hours after them pressuring me and I was so upset the whole time because I didn’t want to be away from her. I’ve offered for them to come over whenever they like to see the baby and I’ve made the effort to take her round to their house.

Since I had her, I’ve felt quite pressured by them to let them have her for sleepovers and take her for whole days, and now his mum has said she feels like i don’t trust them and that she’ll end up resenting me for not letting them have her.

Would you say I’m being unreasonable, or is it normal to struggle with letting grandparents have your baby on their own? I’m really upset about the whole situation xx

Is anyone else just so overwhelmed by the amount of STUFF and THINGS😭 clothes, toys, random items.. my husband isn’t a hoarder or anything, but he’ll sometimes bring home stuff and I’m like??? We literally don’t need this AT ALL

And I’m already drowning in adhd overwhelm and anxiety, obviously the kids have clothes and we have 3 kids so it’s added up, and they’re constantly growing out of them and I just look at it all and all I can think about is landfills and overconsumption and crap, then my MIL.. don’t even get me started 😐 she’s very materialistic and always wants to gift stuff, not even quality stuff, just cheap plastic crap that I end up having to donate and feel guilty about that too. My AC stopped working yesterday and I’m spiraling. Today I just want to nuke my house and start over idk. Nobody else cares about stuff in the house but me

Knickers

Hi everyone,

I'm currently potty training my 2-year-old. When we go out, I put knickers on her with a pull-up over the top, just in case she has an accident. The problem is that all the knickers I've found are far too big.

Although she's 2, she's tiny for her age. She's mostly in 12–18 month clothes, with some 9–12 month tops and shorts still fitting.

Does anyone know where I can buy knickers in 9–12 months or 12–18 months? I'm really struggling to find any. She's been doing so well with potty training, and I don't want ill-fitting knickers to slow down all the progress she's been making.

Thank you! 😊

Am I over exaggerating??

So my man commented on one of his female friends post of her son showing off his ball skills .. he said “does he have skills or is he just talented like his mom” …… and idk why yall but im taking that a way. Especially because I told him he didn’t compliment me all day and you figure if he’s going to compliment a women especially about their mothering skills he would compliment me……..idk yall I feel a way , am I overreacting?

Is it wrong to hope that people around you (aka your village) should support you e.g. Offer to babysit once in a while etc

I was talking to a friend today to say we waited so long to have our first child because I wanted to be ready mentally to have a child as we didn't expect help. Bear in mind we have lots of family and friends around us so I said to her I'm a little disappointed that not one person has really reached out with an offer of babysit. Her response was you aren't entitled to expect other people to babysit. I wasn't expecting hence I have not asked anyone to babysit but just hoping someone would be nice enough to say why not have a break that's all!

Baby’s food

Heyyy, any mums on here that stick with baby pouches and jars? My LB seems to prefer ready made baby food but the guilt of him not getting fresh food is taking over! He loves fruit but that’s the only fresh food he will eat! He’s 7 months old 🩵