Struggling

Hey ladies I feel like the worst mother in the world. I’m really struggling this month due to my daughter’s birthday last month and costly back and forth to court over child arrangement and I’m literally broke. Is anyone able to help me with formula nappies wipes and some snacks for the kids please? I don’t normally ask but it’s my last resort.

I’ve asked in my local free sites but heard nothing and there’s a waiting list on our food bank

So sorry to ask everyone. Xxx

in our community

Mastitis?

I’m almost 4 weeks postpartum, I exclusively breastfeed and haven’t had any issues, when my milk first came in I had some engorgement and soreness, lumps just from the fullness but once the milk regulated we’ve been fine feeding and my boobs have been more soft not been getting hard or lumpy. Today they have been lumpy and very sore to touch and I don’t know why

Why do non-mums not understand us ?

So my friend texted me and I was quite busy with my kid and my niece and nephews they were crying, etc. Just a lot was happening, I was overstimulated and hardly on my phone. I called her, she didn’t answer twice. Long story short, I didn’t reply to her messages in time, and then she texted me at around 2am saying “I’m just not gonna contact you anymore atp”.

What I find quite distasteful, really. Like my time isn’t my own anymore? I reply or call as much as I can, but I just feel like she doesn’t get it or see that I’m trying to balance motherhood and being that same girl I was before pregnancy but In actual fact I’m not I don’t have that free time I use to have. And I really don’t like the guilt she’s trying to make me feel. My child will ALWAYS come first, especially when they are distressed.

It feels like most of the friends I have aren’t really my friends anymore, they’ve really distanced themselves. Motherhood can get so lonely at times 😔

Would any other mums like to connect? Just chat about these experiences, vent, or even meet up for a coffee or let’s be honest, something stronger! 😂 I’m from Essex, UK ❤️

Wheelchair user space on public transport. Who has the right? Mum and baby already on board or person using a wheelchair?

I have 3 month old triplets and I am going to have to use public transport next week for a short journey (thankfully it’s only about 10 minutes). I will be taking my double pram and baby wearing one of them. I will not be able to hold all three of them safely and collapse my pram if a wheelchair user comes on board.

Will I have to get off the bus? Will they ask the wheelchair user to wait for the next bus?

For context, am happy to get off the bus if needs be. I just want some knowledge beforehand and any experiences that people have had with this.

Speech

At what age did your sons speech really come on? My 1.5 year old can probably say about 8 words but I’m wondering when he’ll be in full flow talking like is it just going to happen overnight?

Following wake window?

Does anyone not follow wake windows? Just let their baby fall asleep when they do if so how long are they awake for roughly?

Bedtimes with newborn

Hi!
I’m a first time mum and really struggling with bed times with my baby girl. She’s only 17 days old. At nights she doesn’t like being in her next to me crib; I think she feels a bit lost in it and also doesn’t like a blanket. We have been putting her down in her Moses basket which has been working better but when waking up for her early hours feed around 3/4am I can’t seem to get her back down in the Moses basket and having to put her in with me which isn’t ideal. I feel so much mum guilt as she will be used to being warm and toasty in my tummy!
Please can anyone give advice on how they sleep their babies; do you use blankets, sleep bags? I’ve seen people use the sleep pod pillows but these aren’t recommended. Any advice will be very much appreciated as I feel awful thinking she must feel so cold and lost in her crib/moses.