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I got a four month old and i have relative who is hoarder i didn’t know it before because i came here 2 years ago she never call or invited me so no contact at all but now i have a baby and when i went inside her house my heart broke how can someone lives like that. she got disability ( she got spine issue ) she can hardly walk and she’s in severe depression. she wont let anyone near her house only me and trust me how can i help her? she’s asking me to stay night at her place with baby but i dont know i really feel bad for her and what can i do. tell me how can i clean it for her in a day its 50 bags of clothes , wood and alot of stuff

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Baby will only sleep on me, not in crib—help!

My baby settles instantly when he’s in my arms but cries or screams the moment I put him in his next to me crib. Has anyone found tips or gentle ways to help their baby sleep in the crib rather than just on them? Would love to hear what worked for others.

Scar pain

How long will I have pain around my scar for? I'm currently 5 months pp

Am I being crazy?

Hi, so I just came on my period and yesterday afternoon I kicked my husband out for being too rough with my baby, he refused to see my point of view and instead made me feel bad, he’s done this so much.

He struggles to put her to sleep so he results to essentially forcing her to sleep, he picks her up roughly and plays with her too intensely for my liking she’s only three months so I don’t want to hurt her but he just doesn’t see it that way, whenever he puts her to sleep she screams but it’s different with me? I can’t tell whether I overreacted or not, I’m currently dealing with postpartum depression, anxiety and psychosis, I’m scared I overreacted.

Do you and your partner have sex in the same room as your baby?

I recently saw a discussion about this on insta comments and it was a very split discussion so I was wondering how people here felt about it? (I just want to add I don’t want any judgement or negative comments to people who do or don’t decide to do this I just wanted to see how people feel)

In my own personal experience me and my partner do, our baby is 7 months old and sleeps independently in his own crib but he’s still in our room we never do it while he’s awake, under the covers in the dark so nothing is visible and if he wakes up we stop immediately for us personally doing it “when the baby isn’t around” just isn’t a possibility and we literally never have time to ourselves otherwise I will say we have massively toned down how we’re intimate with each other so we arent loud or doing crazy 50 shades style like we would pre baby and as soon as he’s older or old enough to like pull himself up and actually see what’s happening it’ll stop I don’t want it to be a situation where he ever sees us doing the act but for now I feel like he’s still unaware enough that it’s okay and like I said it’s only ever when he’s dead asleep sometimes I do feel a bit weird about it and it kills the mood so we stop.

Looking for encouragement, hope & success stories after an 8-week breastfeeding break ❤️

My baby is 8 weeks old and was born via C-section. My recovery was extremely difficult, to the point where I physically couldn’t lift my baby properly to breastfeed. We eventually had to start formula.

Once I came home, I tried getting her to latch. Her latch was actually quite strong, but I was experiencing chest pain and would sometimes pass out, so I had no choice but to stop.

I then tried expressing with my Momcozy pump, but after 20 minutes I was barely getting 20 ml altogether. I became extremely discouraged, especially with all the family pressure, questions and blame. Eventually, I completely stopped pumping.

I’ve carried so much mum guilt ever since. I desperately wanted to give my baby my milk, but at the time, my body simply wasn’t in a place where I could do it. It wasn’t a choice I made.

Now, at 8 weeks postpartum, I finally feel much better physically, and I really want to try again. Even if I can only provide some breast milk and we continue combo feeding, I would be happy with that.

I’m just very scared and skeptical that it’s too late. I can still see drops of milk when I press my nipple, so I know I haven’t completely dried up.

I’m currently trying things like brewer’s yeast, lactation teas, oats and a high-protein diet. My baby is also extremely colicky and cries constantly, so using my Spectra is very difficult because I can’t realistically sit there pumping for long periods while she’s crying.

I would really love to hear from mums who were in a similar situation — especially anyone who restarted breastfeeding/pumping around 6–8 weeks (or even later) and managed to increase their supply or get their baby back to the breast.

I need some hope right now. ❤️ I keep thinking that if I don’t try, I’ll regret it forever, and I really don’t want that feeling. At the same time, I’m terrified of trying and failing again.

Also, I currently have one Momcozy pump. Would it be worth buying a second one so I can pump both breasts simultaneously, or at 8 weeks postpartum after such a long break would that be unlikely to make much difference?

And please be kind. I know formula is completely fine, and I’m not judging anyone who formula feeds. I’m just trying to do this because it matters to me personally, and I wish people understood that I didn’t choose to stop breastfeeding — at the time, I physically couldn’t.

I would be so grateful for any encouragement, realistic advice, or success stories. ❤️

Constipation

Hi all my little girl is a month old today. She is combination fed,
Has not been pooing as much. Sometimes can go 2 days without pooing.
Has been drinking plenty and having plenty of wet nappies.
Any advice on this? Is it worth highlighting to Gp or health visitor for some advice?
Thanks in advance 🙂