Going out

What should I do if my boyfriend is always wanting to go out late at night drinking with his friends but I can never go do anything because I am home with my daughter. There has been an incident where I let him go out with friends, and I told him to be home by midnight, but he didn’t come home till 6 AM and then one night he was working till like 9 o’clock and then left me on red and went to go hang out with friends and drink again didn’t get home till one and now tonight at 11 o’clock. He asked if he could go out drinking with friends and I told him I really didn’t want him to go, but he said he would be home by 12:30 and he’s always saying you’re just getting mad really for no reason but I’m always stuck at home and can’t go out with friends because I’m either at home or I’m working

in our community

Do you pick up your child from the nursery much earlier before the session ends?

My son’s nursery baby room session finishes at 6pm. Pick up normally starts from 5pm but I notice all the babies have gone home before 6pm. If I arrive at 5:45pm he would be the last one remaining in the room.

There was one time I got a call from the nursery saying my son was unhappy and he seemed to be very itchy from his eczema. I went to picked him up earlier and I notice another 2 babies were also being picked up at 4:40 pm.

Do parents (working or SAHP) generally prefer to pick up their children from nurseries early?

Oh what a night

So, an evening that was meant to be a celebration of passing my driving test in Thursday and being able to relax with no children as turned into a shit show.
I had a gut feeling and have done for awhile now and checked my partners phone (massive wrong thing for me to do I know this) how ever I saw on his lock screen the suggestion Apple do and the top one was “send message to “name” on twitter so I looked and my god, he has been hounding women in his inbox for their OF and messages to and from women to pay for images etc bare in mind we’re in the process of buying a house so that transaction will be know to our mortgage advisors 🤦🏽‍♀️ also I have no personal issues with people on OF, it’s a boundary to me in a relationship.
So seeing this I screen shot a conversation so it’s on his camera roll when he opens it next haha..
he came into the room and mentioned anal, it’s something I told him can happen give or take when it’s right. I’ve also had bowl issues as a child as I’ve explained to him on days when I’ve teared or it’s softer than usually and then that night or the night after it’s brought up but today when I told him I’ve never told previous partners how much it’s hurts me his first response was “I won’t bother asking no more”
Not I understand so we’ll wait or something softer.
I’m probably over reacting but I needed a rant before I fall asleep while he’s downstairs 😂

Grandparents not following our no screen time rule.

Our little boy is looked after by my in laws once a week whilst I’m at work. I was initially going to put him in nursery for my 2 working days but my in laws insisted that they have him for 1 day. He is their only grandchild and wanted to spend extra time with him.

I am very grateful that they have him and they are excellent grandparents to our little boy. However we do not allow our 2.5 year old to watch any TV at home. My in laws have started to show our son TV shows whilst at theirs (Peppa pig, Paw Patrol and Bluey etc) I have asked them to stop as it’s causing issues at home. Our little boy is getting upset when I tell him that he cannot watch these shows at home. This is leading to meltdowns and tantrums. Prior to this, we had none of these behaviours.

I have tried speaking with them multiple times but they keep letting him watch these shows at theirs. They have said that he gets upset when he cannot watch them.

Should I put my little boy in nursery for 2 days a week and not with his grandparents? How can I make them respect my parenting choices?

For context, my husband had also been involved in all of these conversations.

Relationship crisis

Does anyone else regret who their baby daddy is? I’d never say I regret being with him because I got my beautiful boy from him. We’re still together but he’s just fkin useless! I find I have to ask permission to go have a shower, go shop or toilet whereas he just does as he pleases and doesn’t ask me if I need anything beforehand. He’s only just started realising how much goes into looking after a poorly baby (for context my boy has CMPA and silent reflux so will not be put down for more than 5 mins). Every time I take baby back to the drs because the prescribed formula isn’t working etc he says I’m being dramatic but I’m the one who’s with him literally 24/7. He’s not helped with a single night feed since he was born and he’s 16 weeks now. I just feel so overwhelmed and overstimulated I can’t even get this post to make sense the way I want it to. Whenever I need to do something for myself it’s brushed off, for example this morning I’d got up with baby after cosleeping so not having decent sleep anyway and asking him to have him so I could eat and have a cup of tea without it being stone cold. He told me “yeah in a minute I’m about to put toast on” he didn’t offer to do me any or make me a brew. Instead, he used the last of the butter so I couldn’t even have breakfast and then told me “hurry up doing what you’re doing though because I’m going out soon”. I know I can handle being with my son 24/7 as that’s what I have to do when he’s working but why does he not realise that when he’s off it’s also supposed to take a bit of heat off me? I’ve tried having conversations about it but he gets defensive straight away and acts like he’s done me the biggest solid by having him for half an hour so I can cook us tea?! Has anyone else found this and how have you dealt with it because if this doesn’t turn around I’m so ready to try being a single mum🥲

Are my feelings valid?

I am 25 days postpartum with my first. My husbands job normally has him traveling but I thought when we knew we were due he would try to not go out of town in the first month. Tomorrow he leaves for a week to another state. Am I over reacting by being upset and overwhelmed?

What would you do?

I live in a small town and one of the shops has recently put a golliwog doll in their shop window. I went in and explained to the woman who owns the shop how offensive they are. She basically laughed, called me a snowflake and told me to get out.
What would you do?