Birth Reflection

I have a birth reflection appointment scheduled for tomorrow, and I was just wondering what kind of questions can I ask them?
I had a lengthy and complicated birth, I was induced which ultimately led to an emergency c-section. However, I had been told at 11:30pm on the Tuesday night that I needed a c-section, but was left until 5:30am on the Wednesday, when my consultant wanted to suggest me continuing with a vaginal birth, however my blood test was beginning to show signs of sepsis, so the decision was made to take me to theatre.
I have been suffering with a lot of trauma around my birth, and my recovery, and I have lots of questions to ask them, but I was just hoping to hear from someone who maybe was in a similar situation to me, or has experience of a birth reflection and can let me know what to expect.
Thank you!

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Hello! I was also induced across a week and then still ended up with an emergency c-section. My section was delayed until the next morning despite my baby showing signs of distress and me showing signs of sepsis. I had a birth reflection as I really struggled after he was born and felt really unhappy with how my birth went. The meeting mostly just talked through my birth timeline and what happened when - so I recommend having a notepad and pen (or laptop) handy. I’ll be honest and say it didn’t help me massively, as I discovered more errors or issues I wasn’t aware of at the time 🙃 but I did come away with more understanding of things and that eventually helped my negative and repetitive thoughts settle. I hope it goes okay for you! Definitely have someone you can chat to afterwards just in case it brings back any sad or difficult memories x

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