I honestly don’t know what to do 😭
My fiancé and I have always disagreed about when our daughter should start sleeping in her crib. She’s 3 months old now, and he really wants her to start sleeping in her crib because neither of us is getting enough sleep with her sleeping with me. And honestly, I completely understand where he’s coming from. I know we’re both exhausted and something probably needs to change eventually.
But I’m genuinely scared.
I’ve co-slept with her since she was about a week old. We tried the bassinet when she was little, but she absolutely hated it and would not settle in it. She got used to sleeping with me, and honestly, I got used to having her right beside me too. As exhausting as it can be, I actually sleep better when she’s next to me because I can hear her breathing, feel her moving, and check on her constantly.
Her crib is in her own room right next to ours, and I do have a baby monitor, so I know I would be able to see and hear her. But honestly, that still doesn’t completely ease my mind. I’m terrified of SIDS, and the thought of her being in another room while I’m asleep scares me so much. I feel like I would wake up constantly checking the monitor and wondering if she’s breathing, if she needs me, if something happened, or if I’m not going to hear her.
I always pictured waiting until at least around 6 months before trying to transition her, but now I’m questioning whether I’m being unreasonable. I know there’s never going to be a point where I’m completely free of worry because I’m her mom and I’m always going to worry about her. But she’s still so little, and I’m just not ready emotionally to have her sleeping away from me.
At the same time, I know my fiancé has a point. Neither of us getting enough sleep isn’t sustainable either, and I don’t want our exhaustion to start affecting us or our relationship. I just don’t want to make a decision out of exhaustion and then spend every night terrified that something is going to happen to my baby.
I feel completely stuck because I understand both sides. I want her to be safe, I want us both to get some sleep, but I also want to listen to my mom instincts. I’m not trying to keep her from her crib forever. I just don’t know when the right time is, and I’m honestly scared to make the wrong decision.
Am I being overly anxious about this, or did anyone else feel this way when their baby was around 3 months old? 😭 I could really use some advice from other moms who have been through this because I genuinely don’t know what to do.
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I completely understand this! We tried the crib when we came home from the hospital and I couldn't sleep because I was so worried about him. We've been co-sleeping basically since we brought him home. We're starting to transition him to the crib now that he's almost 3 months. I feel like it was important that we were both ready for that change before we tried again.
We tried to make it as low stress as possible. We've started off slow, mostly with naps. There was a lot of trial and error, I rock or nurse to sleep. After I'm sure he's deep sleep I put him in his crib, feet first then legs and back then head on the mattress. If I don't his reflexes will wake him every freaking time. I think the most important thing is patience and grace. It definitely gets frustrating at times when nothing's working, those are the nights we co-sleep.
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