Relationship after having a baby

How did your relationship evolve / change dince having a baby? I am a Mum of 20 month old and became a single Mum

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I think having our babies made us fall more in love with each other

I think becoming a mum completely changed my relationship. Having a baby exposes everything that was already there but it also changes u as a person, ur priorities, ur tolerance, ur expectations and what u need from ur partner. For me, I realised how much I was carrying mentally and physically and how lonely u can feel even when ur technically not alone. I’m learning that sometimes the hardest changes are the ones that lead u back to yourself. For me, it highlighted a lot of things I probably wouldn’t have noticed before becoming a mum. The lack of support, the mental load, the exhaustion and suddenly having this tiny person who needs u 24/7 can really change how u see ur partner and ur relationship. I think I’ve realised that becoming a mum made me much stronger and more aware of what I actually need from a relationship. It’s been a really difficult journey and definitely not what I imagined motherhood or my relationship would look like but I’m learning so much about myself, big hug ❤️

Having a baby can make or break a relationship. It brought me and my partner closer together

brought us closer together for sure. definitely went through the room mate stage but I felt we got more back to 'us' once I stopped bf as baby then slept through the night and we started leaving him with grandparents so we could go on some dates etc. the first year is tough for sure!

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Nursing bra help!

Does anyone know of any nursing bras available in the UK that have this option where you can open at the front, but it still leaves some material across the top part of your boobs so you are covered whilst feeding?

I bought one in my last pregnancy from Australia, but they have stopped doing it 😭

I have found the below, but it’s just a tank top so you can’t adjust the size at the back. And with how varied my boob size is during pregnancy, freshly postpartum, and as I went through breastfeeding, I really need an adjustable back!

I know some people say just have the confidence to feed, but I’m really after something that leaves me a bit covered as it gave me so much more confidence

Autistic in babies

I know I shouldn’t worry but my daughter that’s 8 months plays but she’ll wack stuff she’s holding on floor repeatedly is this normal?? How did you know your child was autistic???
She has eye contact she’s just started to babble little bit here and there she crawls and sits up she smiles when you smile very hard to make laugh although she does laugh! She’s a tough crowd 😂
She’ll bash toys with her hands she has facial expressions
She doesn’t respond to her name that well right now

A question for 2nd time mummies and beyond

My social circle is all 1st time mummies with children ranging up to two and we all put a lot of focus on naps. I feel very restricted because of to the expectations I’ve now built up. I was more chill on the nap front a couple of months ago but since she dropped to two naps I’m all “nap this. Nap that” and tbh it’s not my personality at all so missing a bit of myself. I want to do what’s good for her though.

Anyway, how do you do it? It can’t be simple? School runs or clashing naps or bedtime with a toddler. Or have you just let go and say “hey, they’re happy and clearly gets their sleep somewhere”

What would you say to me? - go with it and get out and enjoy life nap worry free? or would you say be grateful for the opportunity to focus on just her and get her naps in? Or a mix of the lot? Do your expectations of yourself and reality add up?

Pls help 🥹

Morning mamas! I’ve found this beautiful dress for an event that I really want to wear. However, I’m breastfeeding, and although the dress looks lovely without a bra, I’d really like to wear one for a bit more support. Does anyone have any suggestions for what type of bra I could wear with it? I’ll have my hair down, so that should cover the back anyway.

Holiday 💃

Hello ladies, I'm wanting to take my lil lady on holiday, she will be 3 month old in October.

I'm just wondering what type of push chair to get as the one I have is too big.

What else would you recommend taking??

Thank you in advance 😊

Mum Guilt

Hi 🫶🏻

Last night I snapped at my 16 month old daughter she was not settling or going to sleep I was exhausted and had work the next morning she eventually fell asleep at 12am she was fighting her sleep for ages. I just got so irritated and snappy I felt like I just had to put her down and leave the room cos of how mad I was getting. Is this normal.

As soon as she fell asleep I cried myself to sleep and I felt so awful for how I had reacted.
:( I still feel it this morning