Just busy or doesn't want to be friends?

I sent my friend a message in February asking how she is and whether she'd like to meet up but didn't get a reply.
She then had a baby so I contacted her in May to congratulate her and ask how she's doing. She sent a friendly response and asked how I am, I replied and mentioned getting together with our little ones but she just disappeared again. What do you think it most likely?

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I would give her one more chance. It sounds like her baby is around 5-6 months? That’s about when I started getting back out there and seeing my friends. But she also could be dealing with PPD and isolating herself. That’s a difficult one.
If she gives you short answers and doesn’t make plans then maybe she doesn’t want to be friends anymore

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Ive been getting that lately. Its annoying.

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What does it mean when ppl say “disappear” cuz Idk I think I am guilty of dissappearing bt its unintentional and has nothing to do with the person, jus
Means I have other priorities or having a difficult time balancing stuff in my life so certain things have to take the back burner that is why I like making mom friends because I feel like moms are the most understanding & they do need explanations, excuses or reasons. we sorta understand that comes with being a mom especially when ur in certain seasons of motherhood. Maintaining friendships can feel like work or pressure that is why I prefer friends who aren’t needy. Just give her as much time as she needs. And dont read too much into it unless ur worried abt her well being or the baby.

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I do this when I forget to open the app, no notifications on… sorry 😜

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Since its 10 years I’d be patient , does she live close by that you can ring the doorbell for a walk?

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You've been friends for 10 years and you just text her congratulations on the baby?
You didn't go to her shower, or take her a small gift, send a card or turn up with a meal for her?

Sorry but that just sounds a bit odd

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I give people one chance friendship in many ways is like a relationship you have to both make the effort & want to be in the friendship for it to work …
I’m terrible if people haven’t contacted me for over 2 months i literally delete their numbers lol 😂
I haven’t got time for people who haven’t got time for me

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Just busy or doesn't want to be friends?

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She then had a baby so I contacted her in May to congratulate her and ask how she's doing. She sent a friendly response and asked how I am, I replied and mentioned getting together with our little ones but she just disappeared again. What do you think it most likely?

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