Any moms with 2 kids, no village, enjoying motherhood after PPD?

I have a 10 month old. I have PPD on and off. It’s gotten better but comes and goes. I feel overwhelmed by how physically difficult it is to do anything because he wants to be with me and carried a lot. If I don’t have a second I feel like I’ll always be sad because I suffer from loneliness and I don’t want him to feel it. I also want another. I’m just terrified of feeling this sad, anxious, and overwhelmed for years and years. I don’t mind hard days. I just feel not myself. Life does not feel normal yet.

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I would get to older toddler years before deciding on another. I did not have PPD and I still might only want one. That is ok.

Just enjoy your baby! He’s only 10 months. They can feel our sadness. Life doesn’t feel normal because it’s completely different than before. But this is life.

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