Postpartum unsolicited opinions and advices are the worst

While im recovering, I’m tired of people and constant blame on me for anything related to the baby. Literally zero emotional support to the mother. People comment on how the baby looks, weight, questions on breast milk etc.

People just make the phase harder for new moms. Has this happened to y’all too?

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I’m sorry that this is happening to you. That’s not fair and postpartum and even with young children is an incredibly difficult change at times. 🤗

Im sorry to hear you're going through this. Its baffling how easily people forget that childbirth isnt a walk in the park. Mothers need kindness and support after having a baby. No matter if its their 1st or 4th baby.
My inlaws ruined my postpartum recovery and it still affects me 6 months later. I thought they all cared about when I was pregnant. As soon as my daughter was born they dropped the act and stopped pretending. They expected me to bring my week old baby to them after I had an emergency c section after laboring for 29 hours. Ill never forgive them for how they made me feel.

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