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I love my fiance so so so much him and our son is my world but the thing is we have been arguing so much lately our son is 3 months old before I had our son we never argued we bickered but that was it

Some things have happened his brother owns a house in my town but he lives in PA so we rented from his twin brother when I was about 6 months pregnant we moved out bc our lease was up we were gonna renew it for another year

But his twin brother didn’t ever fix anything the hot water take is trash they need a new one so we got tired of it so after our lease was up we decided to move

We were gonna move to PA but to save up money to move to PA with out having to pay rent he moved in to his friends house and I moved into my moms house that is 3 blocks away from his friends house

Bc he can’t stand being at my moms house bc her house is packed with 5 dogs plus my sister lives here with her BF and her 2 kids

But so I was going on 7 months pregnant after I had the baby at about 8 and a half months pregnant he stayed at my moms house for about a week after I had the baby then went back to his friends house the agreement of him going back there after I had the baby was that he’d be at my moms house

Every day at 11am but he does not come over at 11am I’m lucky if he even comes over at all and when he does it’s usually like 1 or 2 pm and then he goes back to his friends house at night to sleep

I love my son but we fight a lot bc I bring up about how he is able to go hang out with his friend and brother and play a card game called magic and be able to watch tv when ever he wants with out interruptions so we have been arguing bc he is able to do what ever he wants but I have the baby every second of ever day am I a bad mom for feeling that way bc again l love my son more then life it’s self but I am jealous bc I wish I could and then sometimes I call him and ask if he can come over so I can shower and he says no

He says there are like 20 people that live there and they can’t watch him so you can shower and btw there are not 20 people there are 7 but also my mom has a big house as well it’s a 4 bedroom house my dad turn their basement into a whole living space so there is a living room a bedroom and a room so my sister and her bf and 4 year old son lives down there I’m in one of the big rooms

My niece my sisters daughter is in one room and my mom and dad are in the other

But anyways he say no to watching him so I can shower my mom and sister watch him sometimes so I can do stuff but sometimes they do say it’s not our responsibility and they are right it is not their responsibility

But am I a bad mom for being jealous

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You are definitely not a bad mom! He’s a bad dad. He’s full of excuses and clearly doesn’t take accountability for his child. It sounds like you’re a single parent. And if you keep talking to him about it and he does nothing to change anything it’s never going to change. You deserve better. Your child deserves better.

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Do you guys check your partners monthly payslips/income?

If he had a £200 - £400 deduction on his payslip every month, would you notice it?

That £200-£400 is being forcibly removed from his wages like tax

Would you notice it?

The money is going to a woman who has a child with him which he abandoned and never met.
He was only using the woman for sex until she got pregnant and he disappeared.

In the UK, Child Maintenance Payments give the man an opportunity to respond to their phone calls and letters.

If that is ignored, they will forcibly remove take it from the man’s wages.

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