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my sons dad has him every other weekend, friday evening to sunday evening, i have asked for £50 a week from him. he came to me and told me he didn’t think that was anough so was going to give me £150 every 2 weeks. however, i haven’t received a single penny from him. every week its another excuse. when he does have his son his mum pays for nappies, wipes, food, she’s bought all the toys he has there and the clothes i’ve given from my house. he doesn’t pay anything to live at his mums either as he keeps giving her excuses too. i want to go through cms but i don’t think i would get anything here either as he can’t keep a job. what can i do?

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I get CMS but its only £30 a month as he cant keep a job either.. but suppose its better than nothing

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