Mother-in-law trauma

So mother-in-law is coming to stay for the weekend after multiple years I get her reasons for wanting to spend time with her grandson, but we also moved away for a reason when I first had my son. She walked around a whole baseball game claiming it was her kid one time she told me she would stab me and my fiancé and our kid without us. Said that I was just such a selfish person for madding the decision to move to a state that is only an hour away after coming back from a state 14 hours away when her son decided it and then proceeds to tell me I can’t call her son baby who I’ve been married to for seven years…. Now she’s staying for the weekend after years of not seeing her. I don’t know how to react. I don’t want to fake and be happy while she oversteps her boundaries with my son. I also don’t wanna fight. And don’t wanna talk to her. What if she gets offended if I don’t wanna talk to her. What would you do?

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I would talk to my husband and set some clear rules and boundaries so that if she crosses them she is sent to a hotel or back home. If he is not on your side and doesn’t support you he can spend the weekend with his mom and you and your little one can spend it with yours or a friend even if it comes to it. Allowing someone into your home who does not respect you as an individual, mother or wife is very hard. And honestly I’m a firm believer of if they can’t love and respect the parents then they won’t the kiddos either. Talk to your husband for sure if you haven’t already because yes it sucks for you but also is this the kind of example that he wants to set for his son is that someday you or he could treat his future partner with disrespect especially in their own home.
Sending good energy your way I hope it turns out well and you both can support each other in a tough situation.

Girl sorry for coming off as rude but fuck your mom in law. She said she would stab your entire family?! You need to kick her ass out of your house. She doesn't need to be in your house after saying shit like that to you. Your husband needs to tell her momma she needs to go and defend you and your son! He needs to cut her out of his life! Her behavior is unacceptable. Your husband isn't protecting you and your son by allowing this woman to stay in the house.

I'm sorry but she wouldn't be staying in my house after she said she'd STAB us.

Why is your husband allowing her to stay with you first of all? Why isn’t he protecting you and your child?

So this is wild as fuck to me.

I would NEVER allow anyone into my home who threatened MY LIFE. Idc who they are. Your husband may be used to her crazy shit and used to the disrespect that its so normal to him BUT it does not mean you have to accept it in your home or even in your life.

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