Advice/Opinions Please!

Hi, I’m in need of advice. Long story short, I’m trying to make it work with my bd who has cheated, not helped with our baby until recently, gaslit me, taken advantage of my kindness and finances etc. I know it’s a bad idea to stay, BUT I am concerned that if I leave and we have to split custody, he will be bad to our child. He is a great father when calm but when stressed, angry, or frustrated, will throw things, yell, curse, punch walls, etc. He has been doing better but has been harsh or snatched objects from our baby a few times (while he was 7 months and 12 months). I don’t have proof of anything. What do I do to protect my little one?

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Contact citizens advice with exactly what you you've shared here, they are very knowledgeable on these situations and should be able to point you in which directions you can take. Just to add you have power to decide what you choose to do next for you and your baby's future. Keep it confidential until you have made a decision and dont let him or other people in your life tell you otherwise. Good luck 👍

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