Current sex state

Once I was pregnant till now (6 months postpartum) we had barely have sex. I dont feel any lust. The sex with my husband has been kind of boring in comparisson with past experiences. But he is close minded and I reslly eould like to start with toys during sex but he is so close minden and thinks he is not good enough if I want toys. But it is to heaten up a little and yes in some sort of way it gets me more in the mood or exciting. We dont have any sex toys at home, I had one but he didnt like it so i throwed it away... Any similar situations? Any recommendations on how to talk with him?

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Am I in the wrong!!

My husband and I were about to have X. He had been scrolling through Xual content on Twitter, which made him horny, and then he wanted to penetrate me straight away.

There was hardly any cuddling, touching or foreplay, so I wasn’t aroused or wet enough. I asked him to wait so I could get some lubricant because I didn’t want penetration to hurt.

He immediately became angry, got dressed without saying much and told me, “Not even a hoe has ever done that.” As he was putting on his clothes, he also said, “Don’t worry, I have plenty of ways to sort myself out.” I’m not sure whether he meant watching sexual content, finding someone else or simply taking care of himself, but it felt like a threat intended to make me feel guilty.

This isn’t the first time this has happened. He often wants to penetrate me without cuddling, touching me or taking time to get me aroused first. When I try to have a conversation about it, he turns things around and blames me.

I give him most of what he wants sexually, but I don’t feel like I receive much pleasure, affection or effort in return. I understand that intimacy shouldn’t be transactional, but I also want my comfort and pleasure to matter. Sometimes I find myself craving affection and intimacy that I’m not receiving, even though my husband is right beside me.

I wasn’t rejecting him. I simply wasn’t physically ready for penetration and wanted to use lube so it would be comfortable.

AITAH for asking him to wait while I got lubricant? What do you think he meant by saying that he has other ways to sort himself out, and was his reaction reasonable?

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Horny when bf at work

I am so horny when my bf is at work. We have sex almost every night, but while he's at work, I'm just tingly almost the whole day 🙃

Is anyone losing their mind as a SAHM?!

My daughter is 10 months old and I haven’t found a job yet. I’m with her all day and her dad works 6 days a week and is out the house 13/14 hours and I don’t live near any family. My friends are all in their early 20s and have their own thing going on and don’t quite understand the mum life so it’s hard to meet any friends more than once a week. Idk I’m just feeling so isolated and it’s summer holidays so no baby groups on and I’m just bored of being at home all day. I go on dog walks every day but being this alone is starting to really ramp up my anxiety. Anyone else feel the same? Think I just want to know I’m not alone in this.

Intimacy during pregnancy, feeling lonely

Hiii girls, just wanted some advice....me and my partner have barely had sex through out our pregnancy and when we have, ive initiated it which is fine but the further along I get the more I feel bad about myself and it doesn't help when hes barely ever physically intimate even just like kissing or holding me. Today before work he seemed into it so whilst hes been at work ive sent some photos and messages so far all ive got back in response to the pictures was "you're pretty" and in the messages he keeps just responding "hell yeah" and I get the feeling hes uninterested and its putting me down. Anyone else in the same boat?