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Am I in the wrong!!

My husband and I were about to have X. He had been scrolling through Xual content on Twitter, which made him horny, and then he wanted to penetrate me straight away.

There was hardly any cuddling, touching or foreplay, so I wasn’t aroused or wet enough. I asked him to wait so I could get some lubricant because I didn’t want penetration to hurt.

He immediately became angry, got dressed without saying much and told me, “Not even a hoe has ever done that.” As he was putting on his clothes, he also said, “Don’t worry, I have plenty of ways to sort myself out.” I’m not sure whether he meant watching sexual content, finding someone else or simply taking care of himself, but it felt like a threat intended to make me feel guilty.

This isn’t the first time this has happened. He often wants to penetrate me without cuddling, touching me or taking time to get me aroused first. When I try to have a conversation about it, he turns things around and blames me.

I give him most of what he wants sexually, but I don’t feel like I receive much pleasure, affection or effort in return. I understand that intimacy shouldn’t be transactional, but I also want my comfort and pleasure to matter. Sometimes I find myself craving affection and intimacy that I’m not receiving, even though my husband is right beside me.

I wasn’t rejecting him. I simply wasn’t physically ready for penetration and wanted to use lube so it would be comfortable.

AITAH for asking him to wait while I got lubricant? What do you think he meant by saying that he has other ways to sort himself out, and was his reaction reasonable?