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Night shift family shenanigans

So my family is on the night shift schedule. Me, my 2 year old and my husband. I'm a stay at home mom. We usually get up around 11am-noon. Well we live in an apartment and my downstairs neighbors absolutely hate that I have a toddler that makes noise. The guy downstairs works random shifts. Sometimes we can hear him talking at 2am. He is also hard of hearing so he talks very loud. We are used to living with noises at anytime of day or night so him talking loud doesn't bother us. But now for the problem, my daughter is also on the night shift so she is playing from midnight to 2am sometimes because she gets excited when Dad gets home. If she hears the door unlock(dad walking in the home) while I'm trying to put her to sleep, she is awake and ready to play with dad. The downstairs neighbors will bang on our floor and scare my toddler. I get people are living around us, but my daughter is just excited to be hanging out with her dad (who works 60-80 hours a week). I also bought a stepper for me to workout but can't use it unless the baby is sleeping (she wants to play with it too, but I don't want her pinching her fingers) so I tried using it when she went to bed. I bought the one that advertised as being the quietest one and even bought a yoga mat to use it on (making it even quieter) and the neighbors would bang on the floor whenever I used it, I tried moving it in different places in the apartment and they would follow me, banging the ceiling wherever I put it. Now my question is, how do I live a quiet life with a night shift toddler and still be able to live my night shift life without making an enemy out of the downstairs neighbor? We pay for our space so what is the fine line between living my life the way I want but also not creating chaos between neighbors.

We try to stay quiet for the most part, this isn't an everyday occurrence.