Coping as a parent

Hi,

Does anyone have any advice for coping as a parent of a neurodivergent child?

I’ve noticed that my mood has been gradually getting lower as our son’s developmental differences become more apparent. As they say comparison is the thief of joy, but it’s very confronting to keep seeing how different his peers are and to drown in the spiralling thoughts of what he’s struggling with or what we are missing out on as a family.

I don’t want to isolate myself from other mums and children and really want to find the joy in being his mother more again so would relish hearing from others who have battled this and found peace with being on a slightly different but still beautiful journey of motherhood.

Thanks in advance.

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