Just venting

I’ve been feeling like a failure lately because my baby’s first birthday is coming up, and I lost my job after she was hospitalized for Covid & Flu B I’ve been trying so hard to make her birthday special, but I don’t have much help or a support system.

I’ve reached out a little for help with birthday decorations like via wishlist or anything possible , but I’ve gotten very little response. I completely understand that nobody is obligated to help me, and I’m not expecting anyone to owe me anything. I just think it’s hard when you’re trying to do everything on your own and want so badly to give your baby a special day.

I’m still going to do everything I can for her, but honestly, this has been weighing on me more than I want to admit.

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First time break down

Finally had my first night where I broke down crying with my baby boy. I did everything I could to soothe him and he wouldnt stop till 3am and in that moment I felt so alone trying to do this. Everything is fine now but ftm and already almost 2 months in and it all hit me at once.

Nappy bin

Are nappy bins actually worth it? Baby girl is due next month and I’m buying the last bits and bobs but I’ve heard mixed things about nappy bins! Would only be used in the bedroom to save me going up and down the stairs during the night but I’ve been told to save my money as I won’t actually use it that much?

4 months regression - feeding

It’s been a crazy couple of weeks! Baby randomly started refusing his milk — I can’t help but think it’s linked to teething and him absolutely hating Calpol. It got to the point where he was clamping his mouth shut and spitting it out, and anything he did manage to drink would come back up.

We went to the doctor on Wednesday and, apart from being a bit fussy, he’s perfectly healthy. He does have a little bit of reflux, which is new, but it’s just really difficult not to worry that he isn’t drinking enough.

He previously went off one of his formulas, so we’ve tried a different one. He is taking this one rather than immediately spitting it out, but he’s still not drinking as much as he used to.

I’m now super paranoid about whether he’s getting enough! It’s just such a random change in his attitude towards milk. Has anyone else experienced anything like this?

Newborn sleep

Anyone else having trouble with getting their 5 week old to sleep? Shes up for 3-4hrs at a time once or twice a day. Through this period she’s almost going off multiple times but wakes herself up, I assume as she’s overtired. I try to get her down when I see tiredness cues but it’s not working. When she does fall asleep, I can’t put her down as she wakes up and we start the crying, constantly feeding, drifting off cycle again. She doesn’t go to sleep in the pram and the car is 50/50, I’ve also tried a baby wrap but again no luck. Even feeding isn’t a guarantee that she will drift off if she’s been up for a long time. My husband is back in the office next week so I will have my 3yr & baby on my own twice a week. I don’t know how to cope with them both when I’m tied to the sofa feeding or keeping my baby asleep. Any help or guidance would be really appreciated. Thank you

Baby carrier

Can anyone recommend a baby carrier for my almost 4 month old?

I have an Infantino one but it has so many straps and he doesn’t seem to like it!

Thanks

Naps?

My LO is 3 months old and she is sleeping through the night (9pm/10pm - 6am/7am)

However, health professionals are asking about her nap times. We dont monitor her naps at all, we just let her sleep when she wants too - is this right?

Just curious what others do?