Postpartum and separating
Long story short.. I’ve been with my husband for 10 years.. we have an almost 5 year old and a 5 week old baby. 2 days ago he’s told me he doesn’t want to be married anymore that he has been thinking about it for a while and thinks this is the right the decision for him.
About 2 weeks before that he told me was struggling and depressed and he called the GP to get a therapist.
Motherhood has been hard for me because I’m not from the UK so my family lives abroad. My only support is his family which they are fantastic but we even work with each other at the family business.
I think I’ve wrapped myself in motherhood so much that I forgot to be a wife and now he wants to separate.
Anyone else dealing with this? What do you do when your life is in flames. What do you do when the love of your life has decided to break it all off.
I’m devastated !
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I'm really sorry you are going through this. Perhaps he has "postnatal depression" ? It affects fathers too. And if he's depressed he should not make any important decisions. The therapist will tell him this. Maybe not all is lost ! Have you spoken to his dad or mum ?
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