No Village

Never had any help from anyone! 😕 all I could say is just do whatever works for you and the kids❤️

It’s tough without a village for sure. We used to have a friend next door who would occasionally help out with things like sitting with the monitor in the evening so I could go to the shops etc, but since we moved we have literally nobody as we know nobody in the area. It’s tough, for sure but you just kind of crack on with it, and try to support each other. We have thought about getting a baby sitter to get a break or an evening out just the two of us but as we don’t know anyone that’s very hard to do.
No real tips I can give, except lean on each other to get some escape where you can. If you can get any child minding then that may give you a small break too and invite any friends or family over so at least you can perhaps have a couple of hours where they entertain your kids and take the pressure off

It is hard but honestly you will find a way. I have a routine that helps feel like it breaks the week up like I'll do a stay and play one day, walk in the park another day, which helps as it gives me something social as well as bubba because I can chat with other mums

We pay for a cleaner once a week. This is a huge help.

If we want to go out for date night, we pay for a babysitter.

If you find a good mum friend who is local to you and you trust, you can also do mutual childcare whereby she might look after your kids for a few hours so you can run any errands or attend appointments etc and then you return the favour.

But basically, all your village will need to be outsourced and paid for.