Baby dad problems
Anyone awake ?
Just finding life a bit difficult with my daughter’s dad she’s 2 years old.
We have been having ups and downs recently but mainly ups we have had good days out and been a good family unit.
But as of the other night we had a child free night and went for a couple of drinks he had messaged his boss asking to have a chat with him on Monday morning about doing some job. But his boss rang him near enough straight away ( probably worrying that he wasn’t able to do the job or there was something wrong ) which is perfectly normal anyways they got chatting and it ended up with him being nearly an hour on the phone. During this I was just stood outset near him but he kept moving away and stuff so I couldn’t hear the conversation.
Ok but if it’s about work he is normally very open about it and will tell me most things. I just thought surly he can sit at a table outside with a drink with me and have this conversation.
So we had a bit of a disagreement outside the pub had a drink and left for home for when we got home our daughter was still awake so we got her to bed but he didn’t say one word to me all evening and he was on his phone messaging his boss.
I didn’t think much of it expect it was a text messaged at 10pm and it was a long message. I didn’t ask to see what he had said or anything
Roll on to today I had a look on his phone and the message contains him saying to his boss that “ things arnt stable at home “ and “ I’m finding it hard to leave “
Which just made me think wow
After he says all the time he wants to be with me and make everything work out as a little family .
Should I be going mental that he is saying these things to his boss and like making out to his boss and probably all his other work people that he doesn’t wanna be with me anything
I just feel it is very muggy after everything I do is for him and his daughter while he still carries on a normal life.
He won’t talk to me about it he just says I’ve read it wrong and that I should just shut up going on about it. But now he has changed his password on his phone and won’t let me anywhere near it
While he is now peacefully asleep
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Girl that’s cheating btw. He’s trying to gaslight you. I’d honestly leave. I’m leaving my man for verbal abuse. I have absolutely no one in my life. Absolutely nobody. I have three kids. For my own well being I’m OUT. Don’t take this lightly a man who does this evidently has a backup plan.
Sound like him and the boss together
Hey Anna, I am genuinely sorry to hear that. It’s very painful when your partner confides in others instead of you. I can imagine you want to be let into his inner world and understand what’s going on. However, I would not jump to conclusions about what fueled him to be saying that. He could be using family life as an excuse to not work but still get paid (dishonest but hey you got to do what you got to do). You phrase addressing it with him like ‘babe, I noticed after you spoke with your boss your energy was off afterwards. Is there anything I can do to help or is there anything you want to talk about? I really want to listen and be here for you.’
Sometimes we just have to change our approach and if your partner is wanting to make things work then please give him the benefit of the doubt. Your daughter doesn’t need a perfect home just to see her two parents trying at their relationship and putting her first.
I will be praying for you that everything works out okay. Sending you love🩷
Is the boss a women by chance? Sounds super unprofessional and suspicious to me, especially him changing password...
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Anyone awake ?
Just finding life a bit difficult with my daughter’s dad she’s 2 years old.
We have been having ups and downs recently but mainly ups we have had good days out and been a good family unit.
But as of the other night we had a child free night and went for a couple of drinks he had messaged his boss asking to have a chat with him on Monday morning about doing some job. But his boss rang him near enough straight away ( probably worrying that he wasn’t able to do the job or there was something wrong ) which is perfectly normal anyways they got chatting and it ended up with him being nearly an hour on the phone. During this I was just stood outset near him but he kept moving away and stuff so I couldn’t hear the conversation.
Ok but if it’s about work he is normally very open about it and will tell me most things. I just thought surly he can sit at a table outside with a drink with me and have this conversation.
So we had a bit of a disagreement outside the pub had a drink and left for home for when we got home our daughter was still awake so we got her to bed but he didn’t say one word to me all evening and he was on his phone messaging his boss.
I didn’t think much of it expect it was a text messaged at 10pm and it was a long message. I didn’t ask to see what he had said or anything
Roll on to today I had a look on his phone and the message contains him saying to his boss that “ things arnt stable at home “ and “ I’m finding it hard to leave “
Which just made me think wow
After he says all the time he wants to be with me and make everything work out as a little family .
Should I be going mental that he is saying these things to his boss and like making out to his boss and probably all his other work people that he doesn’t wanna be with me anything
I just feel it is very muggy after everything I do is for him and his daughter while he still carries on a normal life.
He won’t talk to me about it he just says I’ve read it wrong and that I should just shut up going on about it. But now he has changed his password on his phone and won’t let me anywhere near it
While he is now peacefully asleep
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