Is this embarrassing? (TMI post)
This is kinda tmi and I feel embarrassed so I just want to see others opinions
Me and my partner just had sex but I was so dry it didn’t work. For context - we are usually quite sexuall active but the past few months sex is 99% of the time just a quickie now from the side in bed and he gets his, rather than having actual sex or making love. Usually he’s very proactive at giving me foreplay etc but lately there’s been none of that, we have had quite a stressful month with a lot to do.
Genuinely I never get aroused anymore or actually feel horny (there’s a few contributing factors). We haven’t done it in like 2 weeks due to my period, and since yesterday I have actually been feeling quite horny purely hormonal due to ovulating but I genuinely wanted to have sex with him but yesterday we got into a fight and haven’t spoken to eachother/he’s stayed away from me etc.
I was almost asleep tonight and out of nowhere he comes to me and initiates sex purely by taking my underwear off and pushing inside of me. Therefore we had not been in good terms so I have been feeling down the last 2 days, no prior warning or foreplay and he just pushes inside which does not feel nice to me as it’s quite painful without being warmed up. There was no intimacy as we were not facing eachother, he didn’t try to kiss me or make it personal it was more just mechanical and just thrusting.
I ended up completely drying up as i obviously was not aroused and the friction became sore. After a while (he was struggling to finish as I was so dry) he then eventually gave up, stood up and walked away and has gone to bed to sleep. Hasn’t said a word to me.
I’m lying here feeling very embarrassed at myself like my body doesn’t work and just goes dry all the time, I’ve got an intense headache now and just feel rubbish which doesn’t help as sex is something I struggle with due to insecurities. I know I have been feeling aroused in general and was really looking forward to when we have sex, but this just doesn’t work for me and I feel embarrassed now
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That's embarrassing for him to be acting like that not for you being dry if you and him know that's an issue foreplay/lube and arousal can be tied to how you are treated emotionally by your partner
Your husband violated your space and disrespected you by engaging in non consensual sexual contact and then rolling off after realizing he wouldn't get what he wanted after already having a day of not speaking with you?!
You should not be embarrassed that your body was not responding. Arousal is such a necessary and intimate part of our body responding physiologically to sexual contact, sounds like you had none of that happening so it's completely understandable that you weren't wet in response to his penetration.
I say this with much empathy and love your way, but I would not accept that as normal from my husband. He should be ashamed for taking advantage of your position and vulnerability to get off without trying to connect at all. That is not healthy. I wouldn't say it is normal either.
I'm so sorry this has you questioning your body's response. You are just fine. Don't feel embarrassed about how you reacted, but really reflect on whether this crossed a boundary for you 🙏🏼💜
As others have said, he’s the embarrassment.
This sounds like your body more or less reacted like it was being sexually assaulted because it pretty much was. Why would you get turned on or aroused by someone who was ignoring you and then came to you and just forced himself inside you? Like what no.
I got extra dry just reading this that’s crazy of him to do and just say nothing that feels very violating I hope you don’t feel embarrassed!!! Oh my gosh
I’m pretty sure that’s marital rape ? It seemed like there was no consent, you did not enjoy it, am I wrong for thinking that?
Also, there is absolutely nothing wrong with you, your body is working perfectly and telling you that “hey, we don’t like this!!” Because you were not aroused. He needs to understand that if you’re dry… that’s a him issue, not you. That’s him taking advantage of u as a literal sex doll and nothing more yet expecting you to be all hot and ready for him. I am so sorry, and you should never feel embarrassed for this.
Thats not embarrassing, your husband raped you. I'm so sorry. Please talk to someone about this. What he did is not ok.
Your body is telling you you’re not interested and he is just disgusting. Doesn’t seem like a safe person.
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Is this embarrassing? (TMI post)
This is kinda tmi and I feel embarrassed so I just want to see others opinions
Me and my partner just had sex but I was so dry it didn’t work. For context - we are usually quite sexuall active but the past few months sex is 99% of the time just a quickie now from the side in bed and he gets his, rather than having actual sex or making love. Usually he’s very proactive at giving me foreplay etc but lately there’s been none of that, we have had quite a stressful month with a lot to do.
Genuinely I never get aroused anymore or actually feel horny (there’s a few contributing factors). We haven’t done it in like 2 weeks due to my period, and since yesterday I have actually been feeling quite horny purely hormonal due to ovulating but I genuinely wanted to have sex with him but yesterday we got into a fight and haven’t spoken to eachother/he’s stayed away from me etc.
I was almost asleep tonight and out of nowhere he comes to me and initiates sex purely by taking my underwear off and pushing inside of me. Therefore we had not been in good terms so I have been feeling down the last 2 days, no prior warning or foreplay and he just pushes inside which does not feel nice to me as it’s quite painful without being warmed up. There was no intimacy as we were not facing eachother, he didn’t try to kiss me or make it personal it was more just mechanical and just thrusting.
I ended up completely drying up as i obviously was not aroused and the friction became sore. After a while (he was struggling to finish as I was so dry) he then eventually gave up, stood up and walked away and has gone to bed to sleep. Hasn’t said a word to me.
I’m lying here feeling very embarrassed at myself like my body doesn’t work and just goes dry all the time, I’ve got an intense headache now and just feel rubbish which doesn’t help as sex is something I struggle with due to insecurities. I know I have been feeling aroused in general and was really looking forward to when we have sex, but this just doesn’t work for me and I feel embarrassed now
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