Cheating while pregnant
Me and my partner have been together for almost three years and I’m 31 weeks pregnant with our first baby we are engaged and up until 20 weeks he was the most perfect partner but lately no matter what he says I just do not feel attractive at all , I do feel like he loves me but the passion is dying and whilst I can understand he doesn’t want to hurt me during sex he equally doesn’t want to go near me it feels like , whenever we have sex it’s because I’ve suggested it or something but recently I’ve been getting the overwhelming feeling that he is lying to me and it’s killing me because he never has made me feel like this before , I want to blame it on my hormones but I’ve folded and gone through his phone , I know that’s really bad but I’m starting to go crazy (this is really out of character for me, I would never ever do something like this) and I’ve found a message between him and another girl from a week ago in Portuguese as he is Brazilian and when I translated it said something like ‘I don’t know what is wrong but I can’t get you out of my head’ and I’m just so frustrated because I really don’t want it to mean anything but further up the chat there was no other conversation apart from a message she deleted two months ago and without going into detail I’m just thinking the worst - I’m over thinking everything , what if he is cheating on me ? I don’t want to be on my own with a baby 😭 I don’t live any wheee near family , I just can’t stop panicking and I don’t know how to confront him without him asking me why I went on his phone which I know is wrong , (I’m 24 btw , he is 26, I literally am so head over heels in love with this man he has always been perfect and kind and amazing and this baby was such a blessing to us , I’ve moved my whole life for him and next year he wants us to all move to Brazil for a year , as that’s where he is from but I’m worried because I just don’t feel like he is in love with me like he used to be , I just feel like I’ve lost myself to pregnancy and I keep reassuring myself she will come back in a different form after I give birth but to me he is more than just beautiful he is my best friend and I’m so scared he doesn’t feel like that to me )
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I’m also so scared to speak to anyone about it because I know exactly what I would say to someone if they told me they had seen that message , I also read a conversation between him and a female colleague and he called her mi amore and it just made me even more sad because that’s what he calls me and it’s like it doesn’t feel special now and I just don’t feel myself at all recently I feel so ugly and idk it’s just feels shit , I’m so sick of being huge and pale and my hairs always a mess and I feel like none of my clothes look good on me anymore and I just miss the girl I was sometimes and I’m so scared that something is going to happen when I have my baby and idk I’m just spiralling so bad rn I have nobody to talk to about this
I hate that you’re feeling this way and I don’t want to be a Debby downer but a woman’s instinct is almost never wrong and that text alone to me is considered cheating already. Maybe reach out to family and or friends for support
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