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I need some advice what to do. My youngest just laughs at me when I tell her no šŸ¤¦šŸ½ā€ā™€ļø she is only 1.5 but I don’t remember it being this bad with my eldest. She’s constantly climbing on the radiator onto the window cill. She even fell off and hurt herself 2 minutes later she’s back again. I feel like the more o say no the more she sees it as a challenge. I’m about to get rid of m dining table and she climbs on that a hundred times a day I’ve tried removing the chairs but she carries toys to use. Usually I catch her and stop her but if I’m changing her sister’s nappy or going for a wee she sees that as her perfect opportunity šŸ¤¦šŸ½ā€ā™€ļø.

I did raise my voice and said no and she started laughing her sister started crying saying sorry mummy šŸ˜… so then I felt instant guilt. I just have no idea how to get her to listen or do I just have to wait and hope she grows out if it 😣

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Seems like she’s climber! An adventure scout lol. I’d give her more opportunity to do this safely in an appropriate area. Maybe there’s a park with lots of climbing obstacles or a soft play area you can take her to where she can explore and bounce all that energy out.

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A 1 year old has no concept of the word no, and no impulse control to listen to it anyway. ā€˜No’ by itself means absolutely nothing, you need to be telling her what she can do not what she can’t do because she’s not going to understand that. Get her something like a pikler set and redirect her to that every time. Take her out to places where she can burn off all that energy and safely do all the movements her body is instructing her to do. She doesn’t have the brain parts yet to decide not to do something her impulses are telling her to do, regardless of how much you tell her no

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Take things away, time out, not allowing her to do it watch something she likes. We do little pops on hands sometimes if the thing gets real dangerous. Like if she’s trying to jump off the table and you’ve told her multiple times something like that we might pop and be like you can not do that you will get hurt. And try to explain why they can’t do that. But I’d just move her and say no you can’t do that that’s not allowed everytime she does it. And when she does it again that you she used to climb on gets taken away. When she had no toys left she’s gonna be pretty sad

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I actually think the problem could be the park is where she’s realised how much she loves climbing 😣🄓. Usually up the slide rather than the steps.

Me and mum actually sat there in disbelief watching her pick up this massive toy to use as a step 🫣 so now most things end up on the stairs behind the stair gate at the moment.

Her sister was also a climber but I know after a few attempts or a fall she decided that wasn’t something she should be doing. Not my youngest though she thinks it’s a game 🫣

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