am i overreacting for being a bit upset.. so weeks ago we all made plans as a friend group

[ these are my husband friends] we have a friend in town so we were gonna all go to this restaurant called the garage.. sure I don't want them to cancel but after discovering this is a bar 24/7 no babies allowed.. well it triggered slight depression because i was looking forward to this and unfortunately don't have anyone to watch my daughter on a week day since in laws work. The next day.. and now i just feel left out because my husband still agreed to go and now im just gonna be left at home. And i need to find something to do while he's gone so I'm not depressed.. just was hoping he could at least ask about a weekend gathering but our friend leaves Saturday. I just thought this man would think of his wife first instead of being like well I'm still going attitude then goes we can do something with everyone after.. my thoughts were like how everyone gonna be slightly drunk.. and full from food..

in our community

Baby dad problems

Anyone awake ?
Just finding life a bit difficult with my daughter’s dad she’s 2 years old.
We have been having ups and downs recently but mainly ups we have had good days out and been a good family unit.

But as of the other night we had a child free night and went for a couple of drinks he had messaged his boss asking to have a chat with him on Monday morning about doing some job. But his boss rang him near enough straight away ( probably worrying that he wasn’t able to do the job or there was something wrong ) which is perfectly normal anyways they got chatting and it ended up with him being nearly an hour on the phone. During this I was just stood outset near him but he kept moving away and stuff so I couldn’t hear the conversation.
Ok but if it’s about work he is normally very open about it and will tell me most things. I just thought surly he can sit at a table outside with a drink with me and have this conversation.

So we had a bit of a disagreement outside the pub had a drink and left for home for when we got home our daughter was still awake so we got her to bed but he didn’t say one word to me all evening and he was on his phone messaging his boss.

I didn’t think much of it expect it was a text messaged at 10pm and it was a long message. I didn’t ask to see what he had said or anything

Roll on to today I had a look on his phone and the message contains him saying to his boss that “ things arnt stable at home “ and “ I’m finding it hard to leave “

Which just made me think wow
After he says all the time he wants to be with me and make everything work out as a little family .

Should I be going mental that he is saying these things to his boss and like making out to his boss and probably all his other work people that he doesn’t wanna be with me anything

I just feel it is very muggy after everything I do is for him and his daughter while he still carries on a normal life.

He won’t talk to me about it he just says I’ve read it wrong and that I should just shut up going on about it. But now he has changed his password on his phone and won’t let me anywhere near it

While he is now peacefully asleep

I don’t wanna keep my baby anymore 🤦🏽‍♀️ any advice ?

I am pregnant with his son I’m not happy all the time it’s draining !!! And he isn’t making it any better doesn’t consider me at all! He hasn’t slept in the bed or spent any time with me in a while he just plays his stupid game all the time and recently just started work! It’s just like if you feel like you need space so bad to that point why are you even here ????

Anyways he left because we had a small argument regarding the WiFi and I didn’t want him to pay for it I rather pay for it when I get paid. because if you can’t even spend time with me etc why should I make it able for you to play your game ? Idc if it sounds petty or not. I’m tired of being nice and a mf can’t even consider me at the end of the day! I want my son but I don’t want to struggle I already have a toddler and I’m not about to do it alone ! I’m over the relationship shit! Then says he doesn’t spend time with me etc because we argue … he literally does shit intentionally to piss me off and of course I’m going to react!!! I can’t stand when people play victim like they just never do anything wrong . Like you do plenty of things that pisses me off but I never not spend time with you!!! And act like u don’t exist! Like if you wanna be by yourself you can always leave no point of being in my house !

He was so quick to leave so it’s just seemed like he didn’t wanna be here anyway you already stopped doing certain things with me & only wanna be nice or consider me when you want me to do something for you.
Also he does have a history of trying to throw certain situations in my face that’s why I rejected him paying for the WiFi he really only wanted to pay for it because he wants to play his game anyways…

Am I the wrong one??

My husband and I are separating. Everytime we have a discussion he makes me feel like i’m in the wrong yet when I think about it all in my own I know that’s far from the truth so you tell me!

We’ve been together almost 6 years. He moved into my house I purchased prior to meeting him. He used to cook, do his own laundry, help clean the house, trim my trees and cut my grass, etc. He works 12 hour days most days and now doesn’t help out at all. While living in my home he expected me to work full time, split bills 50/50 and clean, cook, watch our daughter etc. yet he made and still makes 300k+ a year while I made 65k.

I sold my home and we are now in a rental. He expected me to cover rent with the money I made on the sale of the house. I covered half up until I went on maternity leave in April. Again, he makes over 300k and I make 65k. He bought nothing for our son, I bought everything (travel stroller, car seat, extra base, bassinet, crib, bottles, wagon for both kids, etc). He complains I never show affection yet he hasn’t complimented me in years, taken me out on a date, planned a vacation (i plan all of them), etc. He just told me that all I have going for me is being a good mom. That I don’t do anything at home. I do all of his laundry and everyone else’s, I clean as often as possible while handling a 3 year old and 4 month old plus two dogs, I ensure the dogs are handled anytime we visit his family (he refuses to visit mine), I handle all the appointments for the kids and for us, the only thing I admittedly fall short on is cooking dinner. Reason being is he doesn’t get home till 9pm most nights (without letting me know ahead of time), when I do cook he rarely eats it, and trying to cook while solo parenting isn’t an easy task so i’d rather make the kids dinner and i’ll live on girl dinner. Regardless he complains.

He takes days off work and doesn’t even attempt to spend time with our toddler. He hasn’t mowed the lawn in months (we received multiple violations from the town so I had to figure it out), i’ve had to take all the trash out cause he always forgets to. And to top all of this off, he’s an alcoholic. He has 4 empty cases of white claw surges in his truck, his armrest has empty shooters and cans in it, and there’s a brown bag full of more empty shooters and cans in the front seat.

Now, am I a bad wife for not showing affection and not cooking? Should I just do those two things?

Breakfast

Can i get some ideas of what everyone is giving for breakfast and lunch?

I give her weetabix, porridge, sometimes fruit. The problem is shes cmpa and doing the milk ladder so cant have anything pre made. I just feel like its the same things all the time

Ive not neen too adventurous with finger foods. Also shes had two allergic reactions in a week and im trying to find out if i can whats caused it.

Advice would be helpful. Don’t have much people to talk too💔

My husband keeps bring up the conversation about me leaving my job and enjoy being with our kids home. I’ve had this job for seven years managing my own office but with it means I’ve had long hours, where I give my time up with family for the same pay. Get stressed out due to expectations because they continue to add things to our list when we only have two people in our office running it with 636 accounts. That’s not what drives my husband to push me out this is the part that made him tell me to walk away.
Last month I was having an evaluation on my office with my manager the one in charge of all our offices. As we had this meeting as encouragement he tells me “I didn’t deserve the small 25 cent increase i got two months ago for not hitting expectations” real quick I hit most of them but we had two bad months out of 12 months. He continues with “I gave it to you due to me being the lowest paid manager in my district.” Like what 😱😳 your telling me I come in early, stay late, give up Saturday time, stress myself out, ran not just one office by myself but three and turned them around and do everything all the other managers are doing and I’m doing it for less with no complaints and have the audacity to tell me I didn’t deserve it.
Now guys I have asked for a increase because at one point the person under me was getting paid the same as me yet I was told I would get a percent raise which was not even a whole dollar when I got then id have to continue to work for it. At this point I get my husband wanting me to walk away but I feel like it’s not as easy but I am ready.
I’m just not sure how to do it. Don’t get me wrong I know the two week notice in lol but idk something scares me about leaving. Maybe the uncertainties of it. Maybe actually walking away or how am I going to do it. I mean I have side hustles I use to make up my income I don’t get but idk. I’ve prayed I’ve seen signs yet I continue to stay. It’s like I’m in a toxic relationship but with my job. I want to leave I do with all the time I’ve put in I feel like I’ve missed moments with my kids. I just don’t know what I’m feeling.

Alone

Has anyone else felt completely alone when it came to getting ready for the baby?

I’m due in about two months, and I feel like I’ve basically gone through this pregnancy and prepared for this baby by myself. My husband works out of state and can be gone for months at a time, and honestly, I think that’s the only reason I’ve been able to deal with our relationship this long. When he comes home, it feels like a nightmare.

Everything feels so one sided. Even when I’m sick or exhausted, I can ask him to do something as simple as take the dog outside at 6 in the morning, and he won’t do it, so I still have to get up and do it myself. He won’t pick up after the dogs and has even made comments about how he’s not going to clean up baby poop either.

I brought our baby’s crib into the house and opened everything up myself. I’m two months away from giving birth, and he still hasn’t put it together.

I understand that he works, but I don’t think working means you get to completely check out of your responsibilities as a husband or a father. I’m carrying the baby, dealing with pregnancy, taking care of the house and dogs, and trying to prepare for our son, and I still feel like I have to beg for the smallest amount of help.

At this point, I’m honestly considering divorce after I give birth and start working again. I already feel like I’m doing everything alone, and I’m scared it’s going to be even worse once there’s an actual newborn here.

Has anyone else gone through something like this? Did your partner step up once the baby came, or did having the baby make you realize the relationship was too one sided to continue?