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Moms in their 30’s

Am I the wrong one??

My husband and I are separating. Everytime we have a discussion he makes me feel like i’m in the wrong yet when I think about it all in my own I know that’s far from the truth so you tell me!

We’ve been together almost 6 years. He moved into my house I purchased prior to meeting him. He used to cook, do his own laundry, help clean the house, trim my trees and cut my grass, etc. He works 12 hour days most days and now doesn’t help out at all. While living in my home he expected me to work full time, split bills 50/50 and clean, cook, watch our daughter etc. yet he made and still makes 300k+ a year while I made 65k.

I sold my home and we are now in a rental. He expected me to cover rent with the money I made on the sale of the house. I covered half up until I went on maternity leave in April. Again, he makes over 300k and I make 65k. He bought nothing for our son, I bought everything (travel stroller, car seat, extra base, bassinet, crib, bottles, wagon for both kids, etc). He complains I never show affection yet he hasn’t complimented me in years, taken me out on a date, planned a vacation (i plan all of them), etc. He just told me that all I have going for me is being a good mom. That I don’t do anything at home. I do all of his laundry and everyone else’s, I clean as often as possible while handling a 3 year old and 4 month old plus two dogs, I ensure the dogs are handled anytime we visit his family (he refuses to visit mine), I handle all the appointments for the kids and for us, the only thing I admittedly fall short on is cooking dinner. Reason being is he doesn’t get home till 9pm most nights (without letting me know ahead of time), when I do cook he rarely eats it, and trying to cook while solo parenting isn’t an easy task so i’d rather make the kids dinner and i’ll live on girl dinner. Regardless he complains.

He takes days off work and doesn’t even attempt to spend time with our toddler. He hasn’t mowed the lawn in months (we received multiple violations from the town so I had to figure it out), i’ve had to take all the trash out cause he always forgets to. And to top all of this off, he’s an alcoholic. He has 4 empty cases of white claw surges in his truck, his armrest has empty shooters and cans in it, and there’s a brown bag full of more empty shooters and cans in the front seat.

Now, am I a bad wife for not showing affection and not cooking? Should I just do those two things?