Anyone else find it really irritating when a white mum puts a post on social media about how 'difficult', 'challenging' and 'not for the weak' their mixed child's hair is?
How is the child supposed to feel happy and proud of their hair if their own mother is using terms like that to describe it? Ok they are supposedly just wanting help which is positive, but why are they not speaking to people around them (the child's family preferably) or doing the work themselves to learn different techniques?
My child is mixed race and I hope I never, ever do this type of thing or that someone let's me know if I do!
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Maybe they're trying to use all the avenues they have to find resources? It sounds like they're being humble by admitting that they don't know how to do it, because it's hard for them.
As a white woman, if I had a mixed chair I wouldn’t know what in gods name to do either 🤷♀️ I also don’t live in a place where I could easily find someone that would be able to help.
She could simply just be struggling, and it would in fact be “difficult hair”. It’s whether or not she projects that towards the child, that could be an issue for them later in in terms of accepting their hair and learning how to navigate it.
Parenthood is just hard. The child eats the owners manual in the womb and we’re all just taking it one day/lesson at a time 🤷♀️
As a white woman, if I had a mixed chair I wouldn’t know what in gods name to do either 🤷♀️ I also don’t live in a place where I could easily find someone that would be able to help.
She could simply just be struggling, and it would in fact be “difficult hair”. It’s whether or not she projects that towards the child, that could be an issue for them later in in terms of accepting their hair and learning how to navigate it.
Parenthood is just hard. The child eats the owners manual in the womb and we’re all just taking it one day/lesson at a time 🤷♀️
Post probably isn't for me really but I used to do a little girls hair quite often she was mixed and her mom didnt care to do her hair so I would do it sometimes she was one who complained about how expensive products were and how whiny her child was. To be honest I used what we had avaliable it doesn't take that much product to do a babys hair and tried to make it look okay. I may not have done it perfectly but I dont see the point in complaining do what you can and when you get enough money up take the baby to someone who can teah you to do their hair.
Don't have a black child if you expect their hair to be like yours. It's damaging. These same women also project their feelings onto their kids and create insecurities within them
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Anyone else find it really irritating when a white mum puts a post on social media about how 'difficult', 'challenging' and 'not for the weak' their mixed child's hair is?
How is the child supposed to feel happy and proud of their hair if their own mother is using terms like that to describe it? Ok they are supposedly just wanting help which is positive, but why are they not speaking to people around them (the child's family preferably) or doing the work themselves to learn different techniques?
My child is mixed race and I hope I never, ever do this type of thing or that someone let's me know if I do!
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