High risk - booking appt
Feeling really bummed out that despite the intense exercise/diet, physio, whatever other hoop I needed to jump through, I have been labelled high risk for my second pregnancy yesterday at my booking appointment.
I understand it is to do with the 3b tear I had in pregnancy #1 but I just feel so depressed by it. I was told at debrief and initially after birth this wasn't a risk factor and I wouldn't instantly be high risk because of it and now I am.
Feel like the high risk label on my notes is like a shame sticker and worry instigator all in one. At debrief I was told I could have elective C section or vaginal birth, but as soon as that label went down, I can't stop worrying about making the wrong decision. In my head, I choose vaginal and I'll have a third or fourth degree tear with incontinence complications. If I choose elective, I'll have diactis recti and other complications. Feel like whatever I do, I can't win.
Took all the joy out of being newly pregnant again. Last time I was so anxious, I really wanted to enjoy the experience as much as I could with this being my last and I just feel so disheartened.
Is anyone else high risk? How are you managing it? X
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High risk in both my pregnancies, i’ve never felt like it was a label of shame at all. Especially as my first pregnancy was during covid, i was grateful for the extra attention that other women were not getting due to the lack of face to face appointments. Especially happy for the extra scans😄
Mine is labelled high risk purely due to it being ivf, it doesn't bother me though as I get to see baby more on scans 🥰
Hi, so sorry you are feeling this way and what you have been through.
I'm high risk, and quite honestly it doesn't bother me. I like that I will be having more scans and appointments. It's extra reassurance everything is ok which I need tbh lol. Try not to let it get you down, you can still enjoy this pregnancy. However they get here doesn't matter as long as they get here healthy xx
I'm "high risk" with my second due to how my first birth went. Tbh it doesn't mean anything to me, other than a few more touch points. Vaginal or surgical birth will be risky either way, so I find it helpful to know as much as possible upfront but not "own" anything until I actually have to deal with it.
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Feeling really bummed out that despite the intense exercise/diet, physio, whatever other hoop I needed to jump through, I have been labelled high risk for my second pregnancy yesterday at my booking appointment.
I understand it is to do with the 3b tear I had in pregnancy #1 but I just feel so depressed by it. I was told at debrief and initially after birth this wasn't a risk factor and I wouldn't instantly be high risk because of it and now I am.
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