Emotional neglect in marriage

And just to confirm I’ve spoken to my husband about how I feel and he either denies what I’m saying or says ok he’ll work on it but he always says that he does more than enough and it I’m not happy to find someone else

I am sorry you are feeling this way, but so proud of you and you strength not just as a mom of a recent baby spending weeks in the nicu but also a mom of three children. Be proud of yourself and how you continue to show up everyday for your children, also i am sorry to hear about your mom and her current health issues ..as for your husband I’m glad to hear he has gotten another job after a job loss so many times I hear about men that can’t find work after losing a job but the statement of “ find someone else to be happy” stings because that’s not the issue, I would maybe try to communicate again saying during this period of life with a new baby could you take a few days off of the gym to watch the children while I get to shower and have some self care time. Because showers and time to brush your hair and teeth or whatever you want to do in that time help a lot for the mental health. I don’t think you are being over sensitive I feel like sometimes men just don’t get it.

Any man who says "if you don't like it, leave and find someone else" does not care about you, does not love you, and will never change at all.

Oh love, given everything you’ve been through, you are worthy of support and care tenfold. I had a similar situation but it was my partners father undergoing cancer treatment when I was pregnant, it shook the entire family so much and then when our baby was four months old he was out of work for six months, we came close to losing the house and everything. Even with all of that going on for him, he sat with me through some of the darkest stages of PPD, called every day from work once he went back to ensure I was okay, gave me breaks when he got home, to shower or do what I needed to do, picked up some of the household things & said he had our daughter so to relax. He understood he mental load and made changes whenever I voiced that he was adding to it at times. If a man truly truly loves you and has the emotional maturity to care for others, he will not see the mother of his children drown and pour more in. It’s a hard truth, given that you have three beautiful babies. Sending love ❤️