Mamas, Am I overreacting?

I've been friends with these lovely ladies since our uni days. We used to meet up, go out, etc. Since finishing uni, getting married, and having my baby, we don't really talk much anymore, which is fair enough, we're all busy with life.

After I gave birth, I had my baby's naming ceremony a few months later. None of them could make it. One said it was too far, one had work, one didn't even open my message to see the invite, and another had travelled. Since having my baby, not one of them has come to visit me.

Now, 6 months into motherhood, they're suggesting we all meet up and go out. I honestly can't be bothered. Am I overreacting?

What also doesn't sit right with me is that no one has made the effort to come and see me, but now they want to meet halfway and bring my baby along? It almost feels like they want to see the baby now that it's convenient for them. That doesn't really sit well with me.

We have a group chat, and I haven't replied to the messages about meeting up yet. They want us to meet halfway since we all live in different places.

Would you:
- Not go at all?
- Go but leave the baby at home with my mum?
- Or just say I'm not comfortable bringing my baby out yet?

For context, she's exclusively breastfed. The only place I've really taken her is to one wedding with my husband. We haven't done trains or long trips yet, so I'm genuinely not comfortable with that either.

I think I'm feeling a bit hurt because none of them have made the effort to visit me during these past 6 months, especially when becoming a mum has been such a huge life change.

Am I doing too much, or would you feel a bit off too? I lowkey don’t want to go tbh , but would be nice just to go out!

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should I be petty and be like you all might aswell find a day nd come and visit me lol

I feel the same, my sons christening is coming up and only 1 person can come but yet they all meet up for each others birthdays

I’d never go!

I wouldn't go. If they can't make the effort to go up to see you especially when you have a little baby, it's not worth rearranging your time and comfort for them. I've had family members that still haven't seen my child for 2yrs but they always message me to come visit them at THEIR house. No

Don’t go! i had friends that i barely talk to go out their way and bring me baby stuff and help me out, whilst i had close friends that didn’t even check up on me! If they can’t be bothered to even open your message simply cut them from your life it’s not worth the stress.

Nope, don't go! Friendship is not a one way street. Protect your heart and your baby.

At this point i would say just follow your heart! you know what you really wants! doesn't matter what other people think! whatever you're feeling it what's matters! x

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