Has anyone else had more anxiety about their 2nd elective than they did with their first?
Even though I know what to expect and what happens... I am having more anxiety this time around. It's not even about being on my own overnight or anything like that. I just find myself constantly checking my notes to see if I was given a date yet, triple checking things I know that are already done and fine, constantly going on the NHS site about details for a 2nd one... It probably has a lot to do with having a toddler now, but I just thought I would be more calm? My husband keeps reassuring me and I know I will have his help afterwards, but it wont go away. Maybe once I am given a date I will feel better, as I have my pre-op this Wednesday. Has anyone ever felt this way?
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So i had my first as an emergency and my 2nd was "elective" even tho I wanted to have him naturally and the drs said no. My 3rd baby was my 2nd elective and I was nervous. I had gone into a huge fight with my husband to the point i didn't even want him in the room. But I think it was cause of the anxiety. But the more babies the more anxiety I had even tho I knew what was going to happen. I think the knowing sometimes does that
Yes. I don’t think it was anxiety about the surgery as I had an amazing first C-section and was actually excited, but I think it was the fear of something happening to me as a mum now. I knew my risk factor was minimal but there was that awful “what if” feeling that I might leave my girl behind. I think it’s very normal though xx
Yes I hated every second and had a breakdown when they were putting the spinal in. Luckily the team was amazing.
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Has anyone else had more anxiety about their 2nd elective than they did with their first?
Even though I know what to expect and what happens... I am having more anxiety this time around. It's not even about being on my own overnight or anything like that. I just find myself constantly checking my notes to see if I was given a date yet, triple checking things I know that are already done and fine, constantly going on the NHS site about details for a 2nd one... It probably has a lot to do with having a toddler now, but I just thought I would be more calm? My husband keeps reassuring me and I know I will have his help afterwards, but it wont go away. Maybe once I am given a date I will feel better, as I have my pre-op this Wednesday. Has anyone ever felt this way?
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