bathing after birth

when were you told that you could have a bath? i had stitches and they told me not to have a bath but i was so zoned out that i can’t remember if they told me when it was safe to have a bath. i haven’t had one as a just incase but im dying for one😂

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Vaginal birth? I had a bath with a cap of detol the day I got home!

I believe I was told 6 weeks so the wound had time to heal with the stitches etc

It’s because bath water gets dirty from all our dead skin cells, dirt blood bacteria on our bodies (even w no soap in it) and our cervix hasn’t fully closed so the risk of dirty bath water going up and risking infection is high. Asian women can’t even shower we have to wipe ourselves down w a warm towel for 2w. YOU can shower if you want to though. I get screamed at by my MIl if I do 😅 just no submerged bath for 6w

I was told 1 week but I think it depends on the degree of your tear. They said my tear wasn’t even the 1st degree and gave me like 2 stitches each side just for cosmetic reasons because they thought it might bother me, but medically they said it could have been left. If you’ve torn I think it Is usually 6 weeks but you can always call your midwife and check xxx

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