I could see it yesterday and now its just gone?
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Learn more about our guidelines.I feel completely stuck and I donāt know what to do anymore š
Iām a mum of 3 children, including a 10-week-old baby, and we live in England. My family are all in another country, so I donāt have anyone nearby to help me.
My husband is from Pakistan and his family are all there. Every year, he goes to Pakistan around the same time and stays for around 3 months.
Last time, he left when I was 9 months pregnant and didnāt come back until our baby was 2 months old. That was such a difficult time for me.
This time, he left again when our baby was only 4 weeks old. We had agreed that he would only stay for one month, and I agreed because I thought we had made that decision together. But now he has told me that he only agreed to one month because he didnāt want to upset me, and that he actually intended to stay longer.
I feel so hurt. It feels like my feelings and the agreement we made donāt really matter to him.
While heās in Pakistan, he calls me when he wants to. Meanwhile, Iām here with three children, including a tiny baby, doing everything on my own. I feel exhausted, lonely and honestly very resentful.
Iāve reached a point where I donāt want to live like this anymore. I feel like I want to leave, but I have no money to move and no family here to go to. I donāt even know where I would start.
I know some people might say, āWhy did you accept it?ā or āJust leave,ā but when you have three children, no money and no family nearby, it isnāt that simple.
I just want to hear from other mums honestly ā what would you do if you were in my situation? Would you stay and try to work through it, or would you start making plans to leave?
Please be kind. Iām really struggling and I just need somewhere to talk about this. ā¤ļø
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I moved to England (London) last year with pregnancy. Had my baby last year October. Iām currently pregnant again. I feel like I didnāt get my spark back before taking in again. I donāt feel myself. I really need a friend or few more just to keep going š

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I have struggled with low libido for a while and normally will only initiate sex or engage to please my husband. I have been researching and trying to figure out ways to increase my libido but I think itās partially because I have a tight pelvic floor making sex not always comfortable or easy. Now that Iām heavily pregnant my libido has plummeted even further to none existent and with my body aches and just pregnancy in general i told my husband not to expect anything until after birth. We maybe only did it 4 times during this whole pregnancy. Now he tells me heās struggling with temptation. How do I deal with that?? I feel so inadequate but also that heās being selfish.. Iām growing a human being!
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I genuinely feel like Iāve lost feelings for my partner, I find he annoys me so much even just listening to him talk. I just donāt like him and weirdly enough Iām not finding him attractive anymore. I feel like such a horrible person but I just find he annoys me more than I enjoy his company.
Has anyone else felt this way?
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Hey Iām around 38 weeks now but i just canāt keep thinking about how life is going to change. I keep getting told that your life is over, you and your partner wonāt get time for eachother etc, it wonāt be the same anymore. Iām excited to start a new family but nervous at same time. Iām really going to miss us as selfish as that sounds. Any views on this?
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I launched my business 2 days ago
I spent months getting off the ground and now find myself āwaiting ā to see if it kicks off
I am not used to failing, I like control and now I feel guilty in case my project doesnāt succeed I ended wasting all this time that I couldāve used to spend with my kid
The image is what weāre selling, it took so many waking hours, sometimes 12h days, and nearly a burn out š
but moms are not engaging yet

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