Pregnant with #2! Sudden panic about how I’m going to feed a newborn with a toddler 😬
I’m due soon and my first will be 17/18 months when their sibling arrives.
I’ve just had this HARD realisation about feeding. With my first we could spend hours sat on the sofa breastfeeding (especially in those cluster feeding early months). How on earth do I deal with my toddler when I’m trying to feed a newborn??
My partner started a new job so only has 2 weeks paternity and we don’t have any family close by. I’m sure my mum/mother in law can spend some time with us but I am panicking.
How did you mamas do it please!! 🩷
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I don’t know YET, (39w), but we have some toys that our son loves for independent play (like magnatiles), I can imagine sound books/ books being an option, we have got a doll that looks like a baby that our son will get for the birth, and I think over time I’ll use the carrier for breastfeeding as well. Our son is in nursery though so it’s not quite the same as your situation but maybe it still helps :)
I think it depends how old but with ours last year (he turned 3 in the August and she was born in November) we just said he will have to wait and now nearly a year later he understands, if you mean like at the table… chaos 🤣 but it gets better ♥️
It's hard. My second is now 7 months and its still hard. My 2 year old gets more tv than is advised, I just try to make sure its low stimulation. Ive also bought so many of the crayola no mess markers. Make sure everything is toddler proof. They know you can't chase them or watch them when feeding and take that moment to try and do things they arnt supposed to. Also make sure you have a safe place for baby if you have to abandon them suddenly to deal with toddler. Mine broke 4 moses baskets and beds before I give up and got a pack and play that would also take her weight aswell. Accept that it will be chaos, especially if your toddler is high energy like mine, routine will go out the window but you will get through it. I know people who had other kids close together and noone prepared me for how hard it would be and how guilty I would feel so i thought I was just failing, it wasn't until I started talking about how much I was struggling that that everyone said they did too. It goes so much faster second time.
My first is older than yours but I used to have her little table and chairs in living room and try to colour in with her read her books or ask her to bring toys over to the sofa it was hard to concentrate on latch in early days and like above I use more tv than I would like
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Pregnant with #2! Sudden panic about how I’m going to feed a newborn with a toddler 😬
I’m due soon and my first will be 17/18 months when their sibling arrives.
I’ve just had this HARD realisation about feeding. With my first we could spend hours sat on the sofa breastfeeding (especially in those cluster feeding early months). How on earth do I deal with my toddler when I’m trying to feed a newborn??
My partner started a new job so only has 2 weeks paternity and we don’t have any family close by. I’m sure my mum/mother in law can spend some time with us but I am panicking.
How did you mamas do it please!! 🩷
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