Need some advice on what you would do re accepting lifts with no car seat.

My sis in laws fiance offered to drop me and my son who is 11 months old home. We had taken public transport to her house as we always do as we don't drive. I said no because we didn't have the car seat part of our pram but would you have accepted the lift or not? Firstly I am just worried about my baby's safety but am I being over the top? Secondly I am a proper law abiding citizen and I catastrophize everything so I feel we will be the ones who get into an accident that day (God forbid) or we will get caught by the authorities

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There is virtually no scenario in which I would accept a lift without a car seat nor would I offer one if I couldn’t provide the correct safety measures for a baby. You did the right thing!

It's illegal to have a lift in someone's car (normal car not taxi) without an appropriate car seat.

My friend often takes the taxi to our playgroup & she carries her daughter in via car seat . Maybe you can try that ?

This! We went on a trip with family to a different state for my mom’s graduation ceremony and my mom tried to get me to leave the car seat at home. She was paying for Ubers and didn’t want to get an extra uber if we all couldn’t fit with the car seat. She had a fit when I insisted on taking it and was difficult every time we needed to take a car somewhere. I offered to pay for another uber but she didn’t relent. My brother stepped in and paid for the second Ubers and backed me up on how unsafe it is for babies to ride on a lap instead of a car seat. My mom is usually very protective of my kids so to see her willing to risk his safety like that was really hard to process.

Wait, you took public transportation there…do they have car seats?

No. I have when it’s been a taxi and an emergency. It’s a kind offer but they clearly don’t realise they could be pulled over for doing this.

Nope. I won’t even let my 95th percentile 7 year old ride without his booster.

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