Does one ever forget about their partners infidelity?

I don’t think people forget… but I do think that it becomes smaller with time IF proper repair from the partner happens. Without that, you are carrying, bearing, attempting to absorb the damages in your body - and that does not go well in the long run.

Honestly it never changed for me and therefore I made the hard decision to leave him. And now I’m in the happiest relationship I’ve ever been in. I’m not trying to give advice by any means but in my personal experience…no. The thoughts never leave. It always stays in the back of my mind even to this day.

Currently in couples therapy to move forward as I cheated back. I did it to hurt him but only made matters worse, all because I couldn’t stop thinking about the affair. I hope you choose to do what’s best for yourself, affairs can drain one emotionally and mentally. Best of luck

It never leaves. That’s not to say that repair can’t be made but the memory is there forever. Forgetting is, I would say, impossible. It’s trauma.

No.

You have to make a choice. Either stay, be happy, forgive & forget or leave.
If you choose to stay but secretly feel resentful and hurt about the situation then you are cheating yourself of finding true happiness.

Hell I still think about when my ex cheated on me and I kicked his ass out 8 years ago lol being cheated on changes you entirely. You never are the same person after it. That’s why I’m glad I left so I never have to wonder if he’s still doing it, cuz he probably would still cheat on me, cuz he just got better at being sneaky.

My husband has absolutely cheated on me multiple times. The only reason I havent left is because he has never emotionally cheated he was a hoe and I knew that he has never been in a monogamous relationship he values me over every other person. He is just really bad at keeping it in his pants, we have had so many conversations about it and I hope things will get better but i cant deny he does a lot to try to cater to my feelings and I love the life we have built outside of his stupid fuckups. Some of the times has hurt much more than others and I dont think ill ever forget any of them. I know i was about 5 seconds from leaving not that long ago because there was so much going on. It hurts and im not going to lie I still have a backup plan if I do ever have to take my kids and leave but I will keep hoping his love for me is strong enough to make him think harder and fight his impulsive behavior.

Forgive but don’t forget