I have been back to work for a little over a month now. I’m a caregiver, and with one of my private clients who I was working with while pregnant, I’ve been able to bring my 4.5 m/o daughter. I work for this client 3x a week (and work for a company over the weekend besides). I am so very grateful to be able to take my daughter to work with me!!!
However, I also feel guilty for both my daughter and the client. I feel like I interrupt my daughter’s mornings by getting her ready and taking her away from home to somewhere else (especially before she’s had a chance to wake on her own time) and I feel like she gets overstimulated. As well, the client has dementia (her family set the caregiving deal up), and she’s very sweet but getting more overwhelmed as her dementia progresses. While my daughter is very chill, she tends to be more fussy when I’m at work (overstimulated and then fights sleep, etc), and while the client loves her and gets excited to see her, she can get overwhelmed in turn by my daughter’s fussiness.
I guess I’m just venting. This is such a great opportunity and I’m also wondering about its sustainability in the long run. I just feel like I’m making my daughter do something she doesn’t want to do.
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You are totally valid for feeling the way you feel! And even more for thinking of your babygirl first and her needs. I don’t think you’re making your baby doing something she doesn’t want to do, you’re doing the best you can while still providing for her!! 🩷 remember she’s growing and changing soo much and you get to have her right by your side! Give yourself some grace mama for trying to balance this all 💕
I don't consider this sensitive topic but I toggled it on anyway just in case
My son woke up in the morning and usually take off his diaper wipe him down and put on his underwear
Yesterday morning he said look Mommy my penis is big because he had a morning erection I guess is what it was
And I said yes your body changes throughout the day and that's good noticing. Your body is healthy and strong
IS THERE ANYTHING ELSE I'M SUPPOSED TO SAY?!!!! LOL.
I am a single mom and sometimes I cry thinking I have to do it all by myself.. I have no idea where to bring this topic to
I'm worried and afraid that when the time comes I won't have the right perspective to respond like I'm supposed to
I'm open to ideas please or just a mindset for this kind of thing. I think I did okay but I don't always know what to say
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