Another episode of - is he cheating:
General vibes over the years - seems to exit out of what he was looking at on his phone when I come in the room, has the opportunity with “work dinners” and things, found a hair tie in his car one time. I know that sounds bad, but no one who knows him would think he’s capable of it, and I’ve always chalked it up to my own anxiety and insecurities.
Yesterday I found a necklace.
Discreet box, ordered to the house, last night he unboxed it, put the nice cloth bag in his backpack, and left for work with that this morning. (Yes I know this bc I was snooping) A quick google shows it was a Very expensive necklace.
Took everything I had not to ask about it, but I’m waiting until this evening to see if it’s still in his backpack or not. He could be hiding it and giving it to me at some point but idk.
Thoughts?
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See the thing is, when your spidey senses start tingling, there’s usually a reason why. Your gut instincts are never wrong.
I don’t know how you’ve put up with this for years tbh. I would have confronted a long time ago and if I wasn’t satisfied with his answers, would have left. It doesn’t matter what others think about him of whether he’s a good guy, they are not in a relationship with him.
As for the necklace, of course it’s for another woman. Stop gaslighting yourself. If it was for you, he would have hidden it in your home somewhere.
If I were in your shoes I would ask him for a chat when he gets in and 1) ask him about the necklace and 2) ask to see his phone. See he can bullshit you with number 1, but asking to see his phone where there is likely evidence of his lies? Yea watch him lie/get angry and do everything in his power not to. That is your answer right there and also your sign to leave. Don’t waste even more years of your life believing his lies.
Even if he isn't cheating, is this really how you want to live your life? It sounds exhausting, the trust clearly isn't there.
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Our son recently got an autism diagnosis and he treats him differently now. Calling him “tismo” and saying comments about why couldn’t he just have a normal son. He has like stopped taking care of him and half asses it. The burnout is real. I signed our son up for daycare because I needed help and a break and was told I’m just lazy.
I really don’t know what to do. Getting married to this guy has cost me my career, screwed me financially, I no longer have my own car because he tried to fix my old car and it caught on fire one day while driving it.
My daughter who isn’t is can’t stand him. She told me the other day that she feels bad for me because I’m stuck married to him.
Idk what to do. I feel trapped being with him.
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Does anyone feel like this? Experienced this?
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