Coping with no independent play
Does anyone else have a child who will not play independently, at all? We've tried all the techniques to encourage it, but he just cries and follows us around when we're not sitting playing with him.
He's got amazing speech/imagination so he's definitely capable, but won't even play for a couple of minutes on his own. It's absolutely exhausting and means we can't get anything done (we involve him where we can).
The only way he'll stay on his own is watching TV for a bit, which I don't like doing too often.
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yeah mine is the same think it’s quite normal, have you tried books? they fare a little better. but yeah think at this age playing with them is generally good for them. books can get us like 2 mins peace tho !
Mine is similar. If she's playing independently (rare!) on the floor and I'm on the sofa if I try to creep out she'll notice immediately even if she's been ignoring me up until then! I'm sure it will come as she gets older... Hopefully!
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