Washing clothes before baby gets here.. they're all ruined??

I've been washing the newborn and 0-3 clothes I've got for my baby. Online I saw advice saying don't use fabric softener as it's not good for babies, just use non-bio detergent, but the clothes are coming out feeling SO rough compared to how soft they were 😭 there's no way this is better for a newborn than straight out of the packet?? I feel like I'm ruining all the clothes.
I've been using Fairy Non-Bio.

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I use all the fairy non bio including softener did with my first and this one the clothes stay soft I put it on an extra rinse and spin .. I wouldn’t listen to online x

I always washed with fabric softener with my first and babies clothes this time around too x

I used fairy softener as well and they've come out nice x

I always think Next clothes wash better than other brands.

I washed mine at the “baby and toddler” setting on machine at it was at 90 degrees while the labels all say 40 max? I dont think anything shrank but some cute lettering has peeled off. Is this setting only for poo stains? I’m so clueless

I didn't wash with fabric softener, but just put everything in the dryer for 30mins or so to help soften and everything is now soft again!

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