Fish fingers under 1?

Would you give / have you given your baby shop bought fish fingers under the age of 1? I know it shouldn’t be a first choice and would be better to make my own , but as there is less than 0.2g salt in a Birds Eye fish finger and the ingredients are relatively simple, I assume every so often is fine?

I sometimes make them for my 3 YO for a quick dinner and would be easier to not have to do something else for the baby!

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Nanny

Has anyone ever paid for a nanny to come to your house just to do the morning so you can get a bit of sleep?
My baby wakes 5 am every day, Monday to Sunday, it’s exhausting. When she goes to bed I have to get everything done quickly, sometimes I don’t even eat just so I go to bed early so I can get up with her at 5 am. It’s slowly killing me. I haven’t done anything for myself, watched a movie, or even had a pamper night in months.
I am happy to pay for, just on a Sunday, someone do to a couple of hours with her just so I can have a little relax and chill, my anxiety is at an all time high and I’m just shattered. Is this a thing or am I making up jobs now?? lol.
I have tried everything to make her sleep longer, you name it, I’ve done it. I understand this comes with being a mum, but just every second Sunday just so I can have a bit of me time, just to recharge my batteries…

Vent/ need advice

Over the past two months since giving birth, I've been struggling with mild postpartum anxiety and depression, and it's been incredibly difficult. I have no family or close friends in the UK, so my support system is mainly my partner and his mum.
Since our baby was born, I've taken on almost all of the childcare. My partner had five days of annual leave instead of paternity leave, but even then the support was minimal. I do nearly all feeds, nappy changes, and most household chores. I've repeatedly asked for more help, even with simple things like washing bottles, sterilising equipment, or holding the baby while I do chores, but I almost always have to ask. He rarely takes initiative.
Five days ago, I finally told him how unhappy and overwhelmed I feel. I explained that it often feels like he's still living as though he has no responsibilities at home. He regularly goes out drinking with friends or attends football matches, while I spend most of my time caring for our baby. When I struggle to keep up with the house because of my low mood and exhaustion, he criticises me rather than helping.
During the conversation, instead of acknowledging how I'm feeling, he became defensive and argued that because he works, he shouldn't have to help more. When I suggested small ways he could support me, such as preparing a nighttime feed, he dismissed my concerns and shifted the blame onto me. I felt unheard and overwhelmed, so I walked away to avoid a bigger argument.
Since then, he hasn't spoken to me for five days. He has not acknowledged my exhaustion, anxiety, or depression, and I have been crying every day. Meanwhile, he continues to spend time with friends as though nothing has happened. I'm starting to feel that he doesn't care about me, and I've even considered leaving with the baby. However, I have nowhere else to go and very limited money while on maternity pay. I feel isolated, unsupported, and unsure of what to do next.

Would you take your 2/3 week old to a family birthday event?

My husband’s uncle is having a big birthday trip (2-3hrs drive away) for two nights, there will be between 20-40 people, maybe more, and young kids who attend day care (nothing wrong with this but I’m just cautious of the germs around a newborn). I’m heavily leaning towards not going as I’ll probably still be recovering, and together with the drive, germs and numerous family members who don’t give a shit about boundaries feels like a no no. Curious as to what you would do?

He left again

He stayed at mine. Played pretend families. Bounced back to his mums. Zero communication. Zero checking in on the kids. Leaving me lonely. He planned to surprised his kids with something today. Choose to watch the football with his brother. Then chooses to go pub gone 11pm with a fake friend. And I get nothing but declined calls and shit responses. Anyone up to talk? Feeling low.

Struggling SAHM

Anyone else’s partner/ husband come home from work complain about his job and just lays next to you and scrolls through Instagram for hours? Or is it just me? Idk it irritates me so much bc I stay home all day waiting for him and he just does this . Doesn’t really spend any quality time with me I’d be lucky to get a kiss maybe on a good day when everything went well at work . Idk it’s just giving bare minimum to me and I’m just tired of dealing with it but I have no choice rn. It’s just hard dealing with being pregnant taking care of myself all day and I still have to take care of myself when he gets home. Idk makes me feel lonely in the relationship

Teaching diversity

Best book recommendations for introducing diversity and inclusivity to toddlers?
While our current books are diverse in pictures mostly, our 2 year old is starting to enjoy longer story books or books that go on forever. She also has begun word vomiting and speaking her mind outside which is great but I’d like to use book references to teach and remind her of differences in our world when we are out and about I feel like that’s how most information has stuck with her so far! 🧡