Night time routine / settling baby

My little boy is 8 weeks and we are struggling with bed time. I am breastfeeding and just started with 1 bottle a day that my partner gives around 7pm. We then have an hour up when I’m usually having dinner then start getting ready for bed around 8pm and down for 9pm.
He is a Velcro baby and I cannot put him down without a meltdown (especially in the evenings) so trying to get myself ready for bed is always quite traumatic even if my partner has him. He then gets really worked up just before bed which I hate. He won’t accept a dummy so that isn’t an option to help settle. I then give him his last feed which sends him off to sleep (which is the only way!) Is anyone going through the same or has any tips? We’re not in a set routine yet and feel a bit all over the place and that I’m just guessing with everything atm

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honestly this sounds all very normal for an 8 week old. I am also breastfeeding and we do bedtime around the same time depending on last nap and how fussy she is etc. sometimes she's crying while I'm getting ready for bed and my husband has her... sometimes she fine and content. it is always changing! With my son bedtime got earlier as he got older and dropped naps etc and it all just gets alot easier. hang in there! it gets better.

I usually get my baby ready for bed and put her down for the night and then get myself ready for bed as it works best x

Although I do go to sleep later so i am happy to do this x

Literally in the same boat, I have a 8 week old who won't sleep unless she is on me, I have a 17 month th old aswell who slept so well as a new born I used to have to wake her up for feeds so this velcro baby situation is all new too me!

Ive tried a dummy which she doesnt really take, I breastfeed 95% of the time unless my partner has her for a few hours. Ive tried swaddles with arms up and swaddles arms down, ive tried a baby rocker, a pushchair gently moving back and forth, ive tried the bum and feet down 1st technique when transferring to cot, nothing seems to walk.

Finding it extremely difficult during the day when I have both my girls any tips would be appreciated 🙌🏼

Same situation here 🫶🏻
Does he like having a bath? I’ve found my babe LOVES bath time, so my other half will bathe her while I get myself ready for bed. She does kick up a right stink the second she’s out 😂 so we have to time it perfectly so she can latch straight on afterwards - but it gives me a good 30 mins or so to myself!

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