Losing the will.

I’m losing the will to live. Toddler used to go nap at 2-3:30 and went to bed at 8/8:30 all fine. After potty training, she would refuse to go sleep by that time so I have started putting her to nap at 1-2:30 and it’s still a struggle for her to fall asleep at bedtime what am I doing wrong. I have tried to get to have a nap earlier but she won’t. Also I’m 13 weeks pregnant and she still feeds to sleep that’s all she has known. Could it be that my milk is not enough anymore and she’s struggling to sleep because she doesn’t know another way of falling asleep

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My 2 year old hasn't napped since she was around 11 months old. She would scream bloody murder so I gave up and kept bedtime at 7pm. It works well for us for her not to have a nap as I can get my 9 month old to sleep while she's chilling and getting pj's and stuff on with her dad then I can put her to bed and she says night and just falls asleep. Not sure if you're willing to try no naps but if you're struggling with bed time it might be worth a try. If we're in the car past 3pm she'll nap and be up till around 11pm which is just draining especially after a long day

Does she seem like she still needs a nap? I would maybe try and day without a nap and bringing bedtime forward slightly

Sounds like you're definitely aiming for too much sleep in a 24hr period. Cut the nap in half and wake her a little earlier in the morning consistently. ☺️
I would personally still offer a short nap as going from 1.5 hours to nothing in one go is quite a jump. My little one hasn't napped for the last 8 months 🥲

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Posting as incognito as I don’t want to feel judged! I’ve tried getting hold of my health visitor but she never answers the phone.

My little boy is 13 weeks old and is breast fed, he won’t take to dummies or anything like that.

Since around maybe 11 weeks he has point blank refused to sleep in his next to me (he’s not been too much of a fan sleeping by himself in his own bed since birth but would sleep in there for a good 5 hours) at night time so for 2 weeks I’ve only been able to get him to sleep in bed next to me on the boob, now he also has not been able to sleep without boob in his mouth and if I move an inch or even go for a wee he kicks off immediately (he just wants to be on my boob throughout the whole night) nothing myself or my partner has tried has worked, I’ve tried pumping and giving him a bottle before bed but that made everything 10x worse to the point he refused to sleep for 4 hours. I’ve even tried leaving the room so my partner can try patting him off/ cuddling him but my boy screams to the top of his lungs until I come back and then he’s fine. He also sleeps absolutely fine during his naps too with the occasional fighting his nap time.

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