How to stop ruminating?
I've noticed for the last year, I'm stuck in this phase of rumination.
Thoughts about people who has wrong me in the past.
It's not a feeling of hate or ill willm it's almost like a heart break over what a friend or family member did. And I think wow I would have never did that to them.
It's taking up to much mental load and I realised these past events has put a wall up.
I dont want these scenarios to live rent free in my head. I have no time for it.
But the question is, how do you just get over it and move on?
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Sounds like some therapy would be beneficial here. Talk it through properly that helps!
If I had a nickel for everytime someone said forget about it and move on id be rich. Unfortunately my brain doesn't turn off. When I talk to my younger brother or sister (moms side) my inside voice talks about how their dad tried to kill us. When i talk to my dad my inside voice reminds me his mom hates me bc I'm female or the abuse I endured living with him for years. When I talk to my sister (dads youngest) my inside voice thinks about the fact her mom left us as my dad got custody so that her daughter (my sister) could have a better life. If my inside voice would just shut up I feel like life would be a bit easier but its not like I can just cut out that part of my brain. When I was younger after my cat accident I wished the accident would have just wiped my memory. Now that I have kids I am greatful I remember so that way I can learn from the terrible things that were done in my life to give them a better future. But to forget and move on what a pipe dream
Talking therapy and practicing mindfulness. Not quick solutions, you don’t stop overnight or anything, but it will help long term.
I also knit, crochet and paint. Sometimes I even just pick up one if my kid’s colouring books and her crayons. I find being busy with my hands quiets my mind and helps me be present in the moment.
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