Taking toys away

I think reducing the stimulation is 100% a great idea kids have far too many houses these days it’s even overstimulating for us ! But I’d maybe not say they are in the bin as that could be extremely upsetting and a bit like a punishment because of her behaviour and you don’t want to break any trust with your daughter . maybe say they had to go get fixed at the toy shop because of throwing them or other boys and girls didn’t have any so we had to share our toys with them or even the toy fairy took them for whatever reason ect ect ect. Good luck I hope it helps creat a calmer environment for her 🤍

I dont think its dramatic in the slightest. Its a perfectly good reasonable consequence. Although i will suggest taking the toys away as she used them as weapons. If she hits you with them, or throws them. Immediately take it away and dont let her have it back until shes fully calm again. The Immediate action at the time of the incident will correlate better within her reasoning rather than her coming home from nursery and her toys are gone. Taking away the toys while shes at nursery may cause her to build mistrust within going to nursery as she may feel like shes going to lose her belongings. Regarding the hitting and such, when words do not work.. stand up, turn your back and walk away. Explaining that she doesn't get to be near you if shes being mean. This will hopefully prevent her from causing harm to you but also maybe help you from losing your cool

Ok you can take away the toys but what are you planning to change in your approach as it sounds like your current approach to managing/supporting her behaviour isn’t working. There’s obviously going to be a reaction to the toys being taken away, but what is your plan for the longer term? And what do you expect her to do at home without toys?

https://nurturedfirst.com/toddler/discipline-without-spanking/

https://www.xjd.com/t-is-it-ok-to-take-toys-from-kids-as-punishment/

Your daughter is only 3. She only has a basic understanding on cause and effect. The if I do this something happens stages but her abstract thinking or understanding on consequences doesn’t take into effect until around 6 and doesn’t fully develop until 11/12.

So whilst removal stimuli and lessen her arousal may help improve her behaviour telling her something like you have thrown her toys away could actually cause a massive effect on her emotional bonds and connections.

I would also suggest rotating toys and limit toys on the whole and ensuring you keep a few comforter toys (regularly played/engaged with) around to support her when she needs that extra level of comfort in play or stressful situations

I would also highly recommend looking into regulation techniques like deep compression, joint compression,. But also remember it’s okay to walk away and leave her as long as she is safe you can remove yourself. You cannot regulate someone else if your not regulated yourself.

I really don’t think this is going to do anything to help or get to the root of the issue.

I think throwing her toys away is dramatic, but i have an autistic son so i understand why you feel the need to take this approach.
Personally we just do toy rotation, they rotate through the spare room, toy boxes & display and are changed out regularly