What are we doing

What is everyone doing all day with their babies. Do I just sit and talk to her all day and we stare at each other. Today is my first day alone with her while my husband is back to work. She all of a sudden hates her tummy time mat and wants to be sitting up chewing on her hands but she’s not quite old enough to sit so she’s enjoying a bouncy seat but I just don’t know what we are supposed to do all day alone together. If I watch tv is that bad for her, should I not be on my phone. Idk I would love to go outside with her but we are in Texas and it’s so hot out

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Hi we have a bahy channel on Direct TV that he watches every now and then, and before anyone comes for me its all bahy content and its only like 3min max every now and then not every day when I have to go to the bathroom. I read to him, tummy time, dance with him, have conversations, he loves the fan lol, look out the windows. It's just about finding what he likes and if he doesn't we try again after a few minutes. I try everything and anything. Hope this helps

My daughter loves to talk. I can literally just say Really or Yeah and she'll be so excited

The days go pretty quick for us especially since I have to pump during the day. But my baby spends time in the bouncer and I be talking to her. She spends time on her back on her playmat and some tummy time but she doesn’t love tummy time. She is getting chattier so talking to her is fun. We also do lots of stroller walks and just going outside to look up at the trees (she loves that). The wake windows go pretty quick imo

Im now 2.5 weeks into being home alone with my boy. We sing and cuddle in the mornings. We have nowhere to be so we "sleep in" aka i dont get outta bed and ready till like 9am. We will transition into the living room to be on his bouncer - he takes a massive dump in that thing like 8/10 times so then its changing diaper and putting on fresh clothes. By then its cuddle, nurse and nap for him. We contact nap only still so yeah im on my phone. Im only human!! Tummy time can look like so many different things and my son also decided he hated it for like 2 weeks and now he tolerates it. I sing, read books, hold him while i call other ppl but i am able to get on walks. Praying the weather gets better for you bc i felt like a hermit when it was too hot out. It feels soooo slow at first but my tip is to get something big done toward the halfway point of your day. My husband is a teacher so like noon is my halfway point. Yesterday i made banana bread with one arm, today therapy, tomorrow is library for storytime

Talking with your baby is great for her language development! Babies also benefit from being in the community with you; take her to the store, Park, library.... Many communities have story time at the library or various other Mommy and me programs once you feel up for going out! My little guy and I just started doing some slow outings this week and it's been fun to go out with him. Yesterday we went to target for packing tape :)

But before that yeah it's mostly sleep and chat lol and that's totally developmentally on track

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Am I Being Unreasonable?

Hi ladies I'm just looking for an outside perspective because I'm driving myself crazy thinking this over. In the last year I have completed the last year of my masters, planned my wedding, looked after my 2 and 3 year old, been taking weekly driving lessons, been preparing my 3 year old for the nursery she had just started, lost a pet that was more like a fur baby, my father has reappeared in my life last week after 30 years and I've dealing with a strained relationship with my mum. My now husband has been pushing for us to move house and told me he wanted us to move 2 days before our wedding and 6 weeks before my master's deadlines. I told him at the time I wanted to wait until the beginning of next year because I felt overwhelmed already but eventually I caved and reluctantly agreed to go ahead. I know the reasons he wants to move and I agree, they mainly involve more space and a bigger room for our youngest. I've told him today I'm mentally exhausted and cannot commit to helping with the house selling/buying/moving process right now. This has angered him as he feels I have forced him into the decision of taking the house off the market, am I being unreasonable?

Seperating….

How did you all deal/come to terms with separating from your husband/partners?
We’ve been together 15 years, two children 5 year old and 8 months.
I never thought we would be In this situation but I honestly think I’ve fallen out of love with my husband, I’ve recently been thinking about how much easier everything would be if we separated but the thought of the children living two lives, going on different holidays, days out ect and me not being with them breaks my heart. Also the thought of another woman bringing our children up scares me too.
Nothing has actually happened with my husband and I, I still very much love him, he’s a great dad but I no longer feel in love with him- if that makes sense to anyone?
He came from a split family and his step parents are both lovely wonderful people so I know that it’s not all bad but I cannot bare the thought of another woman being included in bringing them.
Our 8 month old is hard work, second child has definitely put a lot of pressure on our marriage so im also not sure if im just a little sensitive and over thinking things atm.

Just need to rant!!!

Just collected my son from nursery (where I also work but have now broken up for maternity) to find out that a colleague has been off today with the stomach bug but still sent her children in for a full day!
I'm furious as this particular colleague normally complains about parents sending in their children to "spread" the sick bug whilst they're at home and causing staff to become unwell. I'm also furious as she knows I'm so close to having my 2nd baby any day and one of her children is in the same room as my son! This colleague in the past has always gone on about how vulnerable newborns are but all of a sudden she is doing exactly what she moans about!
Part of me wants to message her and have a go but I know it's pointless 😭
I now feel that I've got to keep my son off nursery until at least a month after baby is born just to help protect us all, but I know they will still expect me to pay for his space!

Sorry to rant on here but it's safer than messaging work!

Been called a horrible parent

So my partner has called me a horrible parent, pathetic and selfish

So basically our son has toys in his room and he finds the biggest one to stand on to climb over his baby gate and then after this he has free reign of the whole house... He's worked out how to unlock child locks on the fridge and cupboards so this morning for example he helped himself to a yoghurt and even a spoon from the drawer where the knives are.

So I've switched the baby gate to a more difficult one to open because he even worked out bow to open the gate, and Ive most of his toys out his room and now my partner had called me selfish because I want to lie in a morning, which is true but I don't want my self and our daughter to be woken up at 5-6am when my alarm is set between 7am and 7:45am I usually wake between those times anyway.

Came home from work tonight and all my partner has done is try to argue his point that I should get the locks you put on the doors and so be can't get anywhere around the house and even said put it on our door but he kicked off when I said we can put it on his door instead arguing what if he's sick and chokes on it or if something happens and we can't hear but it would be the same thing if we put it on our door...

My son is 4 and he may have autism, but calling me a horrible parent is just uncalled for because yeah I don't wanna be woke up at the crack of dawn but at the same time I want my fucking child to be safe! He came down to the kitchen this morning before even entering our bedroom...

C section

My partner got kicked out the room while I was being stitched up during my emergency c section and showed his mum our baby boy before I could even look at him without being drugged up. He’s called me childish for being hurt by this. He said he was crying and that’s why. But wouldn’t your first thought be if I’m okay not to FaceTime ur mum while I’m still in theatre. Was being the first one to hold him not enough? Thoughts?

How do I just walk away from 3-4-5yrs of a relationship with two kids whom I never even wanted ever in my life

But now mean everything to me. I mean shit what am I scared of ??? I have both my kids why tf dnt I just fuckin leave this abusive relationship every day he tells me stfu you are fuckin annoying asf stfu