How do you have time for anything?
Babies just turned 4 months. My OH works from home for himself mon-thurs (maybe 6 hours max a day) we have a toddler that goes to nursery tues-thurs and we get help from my MIL on Mondays. And even then, finding the time to clean/eat/wash clothes/walk dogs etc is impossible. How on earth do people do it?
I feel like I'm running on fumes and wanting to strangle my husband at the weekend for not pulling his weight.
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You just have to make it work!
I’m alone with the children 3 days a week, will be 5 days a week from January for around 10 hours a day. I try and do the washing during the day and keep up with the washing up. Lunches I have leftovers from the day before or something easy. Cleaning gets done little and often when/ if I have the chance but not as often as I’d like. Our weekends are packed with football and swimming lessons so it’s tough!
My baby also wakes hourly or less overnight and my toddler dropped his nap so it’s survival mode 😂
I don’t put any pressure on myself to have a clean house (not that my house isn’t clean) I eat when they are sleeping so my dinner is 10pm 😂 and we don’t have dogs/ pets. I have my nearly 2 year old and 4 month old 7 days a week and only have help from my husband who does help LOTSSS . Every day is busy busy busy and I have accepted that this is the phase of life I am in. I love my girls so much and this keeps me going x
I have an 18 month old and a 4 month old and I have the youngest in a baby carrier stuck to me most of the day and get the toddler to help with things where I can. Albeit it takes 20 times longer, I still manage to get everything I need to do done. It’s hard going but you will figure it out. I have very little help and have just got used to it. You’ve got this🩷
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I'm kinda going to miss it just being the two of us
I'm 19 weeks and I was just thinking how it's going to be quite the change for my husband and I when the time comes (around February). We get along perfectly and I don't have any worries about us transitioning to parenthood.
It's just I'm going to miss snuggling before we sleep through the night. Going out on a whim and take no time to get ready; only putting my shoes on and heading out. Staying out late whenever or driving an hour out to try our luck at the slots. Or going to the bar for dinner and coming back home to watch anime with more brewskis.
But we did plan this and I have zero regrets. We get to start a family and that feels more fulfilling to me than partying with my husband all the time. It'll just be sometimes after my little man doesn't need me as much lol.
I don't regret anything especially with how much support we have. I'm anticipating a big change and I think it's valid I feel that way.
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Massive nursery shortage
Anyone else not got a nursery spot? I’ve been on the wait list for a May 27 spot since the beginning of the year and no hope. I’m on 3 wait lists and also childminder wait lists too.
Since the funding came in it’s gone crazy
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Please read if you can 🥹🥹
I’d love some opinions please! 😅 I was seeing a guy and we recently fell out, so I told him I’d give him some space. We’re meant to have a weekend together next week, but when I asked whether it was still happening so I could arrange childcare, he responded quite bluntly and gave me an ultimatum. I didn’t engage with it and reiterated that I was giving him space.
It’s now been a week and I need to know whether next weekend is actually happening so I can sort childcare. Would you message him and ask directly, or leave it because he already knows the weekend is meant to be happening and that I need to arrange childcare?
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How do you have time for anything?
Babies just turned 4 months. My OH works from home for himself mon-thurs (maybe 6 hours max a day) we have a toddler that goes to nursery tues-thurs and we get help from my MIL on Mondays. And even then, finding the time to clean/eat/wash clothes/walk dogs etc is impossible. How on earth do people do it?
I feel like I'm running on fumes and wanting to strangle my husband at the weekend for not pulling his weight.
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1 on 1 time with our 2 year old!
I want to make some one on one time for our 2 year old with mummy and daddy. I’m exclusively breastfeeding our youngest so I can’t spend too long away from him. Looking for recommendations of fun things we can do for some lovely bonding time! We would like to try and make it a weekly thing that we can look forward to 😊
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Am I overthinking?
Yesterday evening when getting my 20 months old boy ready for bath, I noticed 2 significant bruises on his lower back towards the bottom. He's been at the nursery all day and didn't have those bruises in the morning before dropping him off.
So of course some alarms start ringing in my head. I took pictures and sent them to the nursery asking what happened and how come I wasn't informed of the incident.
Their response was that nobody saw anything, little one was absolutely fine all day, didn't cry or anything so they're unsure how the bruising occurred. He was involved in normal activities like singing reading playing in the sand etc but nothing particularly stands out.
Tbh he had some small bruises in the past that again had gone unnoticed and their responses were the same.
Now I get that children can sustain accidental injuries and don't want to assume anything bad had happened, but I can't help it, my brain inevitably thinks that.
What would you do in this situation? Would you let it go? Would you escalate it further to ofsted maybe? Or am I simply overreacting?
P.s. little one is happy at the nursery and no longer cries at drop offs or pick ups.
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