Toddler is already 2yr and I feel like I am failing

I have been feeling down lately. My 2-year-old has a speech delay. We started ECI a couple of months ago, and even though I can see some progress, it is honestly still hard because sometimes I feel like it is my fault.

I also hate that every time I take her to gymnastics class, I can’t help but compare her to some of the other kids who are her age or even younger and seem much more advanced. I know I shouldn’t compare, but sometimes it is really difficult not to.

I have also been feeling overwhelmed because I recently enrolled her in daycare part-time, two days a week, so she could socialize and learn from other children. But by only her fourth day there, during her second week, the daycare director started telling me that she is the second oldest child in the class but is very behind compared to the others. I ended up taking her out of the daycare.

I just feel like there are so many milestones, steps, and checklists that children are expected to meet, and it can make motherhood feel so overwhelming. Sometimes it feels like people are so quick to judge your child or your parenting without knowing how much effort, love, time, and energy you are putting into helping your child every single day.

Motherhood is already hard enough without constantly feeling like you or your child are being compared to everyone else.

Just venting.

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i completely understand where you’re coming from. my son turned 2 today &’ he’s in EI .. they’re proposing that he might be high functioning autistic? we’d have to go to a developmental pediatrician to find out for certain.

all in all i can say i resonate with comparing our children to others’ when we don’t need to. every child grows at their own pace.. you’re doing everything you can to get your baby on track. give it time, never give up on her &’ continue to love/support her in every way that you can.

honestly sometimes.. kids legit don’t want to talk or do certain gestures. my son is that way as well. he’s said hi very faintly before but we’ve since? nothing else. will babble mama religiously tho. we taught him to high five. he has pointed before but doesn’t anymore. but he’s VERY smart. he knows when he’s hungry, wet, tired, thirsty. it’s all in the repetition. with the specialist &’ your love? i have no doubt she’ll be talking your head off soon! keep your head up mama. 🫂

Uff I’m just here to say I completely understand what you’re saying. My oldest (he’s 4 year old) has a speech delay and started Speech Therapy. It is so hard to see other children and not compare but know that you are doing the best you can and helping your child in the way they need and with all your love!! It can feel so overwhelming and sometimes I even get down about it. You are not alone in how you feel.

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